Hi all
My story is in this thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2360927-Yes-Im-another-one-Husband-doesnt-love-me-anymore?pg=5
We are seeing a counsellor tomorrow to discuss how to tell the children and other co-parenting issues, but I was interested in your views on how much to tell our two DDs, 12 and 10 (almost 11). Both are intelligent and mature (as I know all of yours are too, of course . . .).
Regardless of how we come out on this as an initial discussion, I'm about as sure as I can be that one or both of them will, within a day or two (if not that night), ask whether one of us has had an affair. They certainly know what one is.
So I guess I'm asking, would you tell them (age appropriately) that Daddy had a girlfriend (actually 2, but let's leave that aside . . .) and that's not OK in a marriage, so we are not going to be together, we love you, etc.? Or would you just keep more a general discussion and take equal blame (which I would probably be physically gagging to spit out, but let's suppose I can theoretically do it)? If the latter, what would you do if we get a subsequent question about an affair?
Honestly, thoughts of any sort are appreciated.
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dontknowwhatcomesnext · 14/05/2015 15:29
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