I've been a long time lurker but need some advice as think I need to develop a thicker skin and I need a Mumsnet perspective! I'm late thirties, back to the dating scene after a long term relationship ended. Been on a few dates but no sparkle, then got together with someone I used to work with. We'd always got on great, underlying sexual chemistry which we never did anything about as didn't want an awkward work thing. Went on half a dozen dates and things seemed to be going well. We never had sex although I stayed over at his each time and we did lots of other stuff. Constant texting, he seemed really keen.
We live quite far from each other and he works away during the week so our dates were always a week or two apart. His company was going through a tough time with redundancies etc and he's very work driven so I knew it was causing him concern. Each time I suggested a date he had "something on" that weekend so I asked what was going on and said I didn't want him stringing me along. He assured me he wasn't but needed to get his head straight about work, and make a decision about whether he could see me as he was worried about our previous and potentially future work connection (as we're in the same industry).
That was weeks ago and I'm still waiting for a decision. We meet occasionally for coffee if we're working in the same office complex and have polite chat as if nothing ever happened.
I'm so mad that I've faffed about waiting for him (I really like him which is why I've patiently waited) so thought I'd let him know. I texted him to vent but I just started with "Hey" and he didn't reply so I bottled it and didn't write the rest of what I wanted to say.
Am I being a fool? He's moved on hasn't he and I'm left sitting like a lemon?? Should I still send my venting text saying "you could have just told me you'd made your decision" or will I just look desperate??
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Dating frustration - do I vent after the "fade" or just walk away?
LimeMoon4 · 10/05/2015 23:19
Och lime you must feel pretty disappointed and frustrated. I'm afraid he's not interested in the way you are. You don't need to say anything because it won't matter. Just decide you deserve better and move on. People often want to attach complicated reasons why someone isn't getting involved with them, "doesn't want to get hurt, likes me to much, scared of commitment, hurt friend, job etc" reality is its just not that hard. If he really liked you he wouldn't care. Hes not the right person for you. I'm sorry its hurt you. Get the girls have some 
bitch about him and move on.
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