Looking for some advice re ExH.
We have been divorced for 8 years, with DS10.
ExH lives in another city, and is single (afaik), I live with DP & DS.
ExH sees DS every weekend (mid week not possible due to time constraints) from Saturday morning, until Sunday afternoon. This means I don't get a lot of "fun times" with DS, but accept that it is important for ExH to spend time with DS, so accept this.
There are, inevitably, some weekends that ExH doesn't see DS, but these are usually discussed in advance.
ExH called last night to advise of 2 weekends he is not seeing DS that he had forgotten to tell me about.
I don't go out very often, but, I have plans for both of these weekends. First is a hen night (DP is going on stag do), and my parents are on holiday. 2nd weekend, me, DP & my parents have tickets for a show.
I explained this to ExH, expecting him to say "I'm really sorry I forgot to tell you, is there anything we can do?" Instead, he ranted & raved at me, saying it was typical of me not to accept responsibility (!?!) And it was up to me to sort out babysitting for DS, he then started to call me vile names, at which point I hung up.
This is the 2nd time in as many months that he has done this (the first time because DC's holiday club hadn't announced their holiday dates & he needed to know to book holiday with DC)
DC overheard his father side of conversation last night.
I need to have a conversation with ExH to remind him that it is OUR responsibility to look after DC, and not solely mine, and to ask him to let me know when he won't be seeing DC, but more importantly that he cannot talk to me the way he did last night (& last month).
How do I approach this with him (if I simply tell him it's unacceptable, he'll blow up again), and secondly how do I approach this conversation with DC so he knows that ExH's way is not an acceptable way to talk to anyone.
Sorry for the long post.
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