Hi All ,
I wanted to get some advice on whether I am being oversensitive and hormonal, or if my hormones and intuition are right.
I met my DH 4 years ago at a party, we were both living the single independent life, him with an excellent career in Investment banking and a bachelor lifestyle, my less so great but years being single and independant. When we met we both gave up this lifestyle and many of our single friends dispersed, but we stayed friends with couples, and settled in to a different lifestyle. Sadly, DH lost his Job, and didn't work for 2 .5 yrs, but my career picked up and we were still happy during this time.
DH happily found a Job this year and his career has picked up again. At the same time, I became pregnant. We are currently looking for some property in the countryside. We visited somewhere yesterday which is 4 miles from DH new job, however is quite isolated, allbeit beautiful, has a church a pub, no shops, about 10 houses and no public transport. Big change from Central London. However, the house is nice enough
My dilemma is the semidetached house we went to see my DH loves, not due to the house but due to the next door neighbour. He works in Similar field, travels frequently, in to sport, but what concerns me is that he is a bachelor and from meeting him I get the impression he lives a certain , womanising party jet set lifestyle and I recognise it well because my DH used to do it.They spent 2 hrs chatting yesterday and got on incredibly well. He is charismatic, fun, a real party person. This is what concerns me though.
This guy was saying that he spends alot of time travelling abroad to such and such events here and there and is in to such and such and goes to this and that event. DH seems to have a man crush which I understand. He himself hasn't been able to do these things for the last 2 .5 yrs due to lack of work, and his friends are all married. Now he has the job, the money, but he also has a wife and and child on the way. I am not sure if he is thinking about that though. He is thinking about all the possibilities with this guy of the things he can do. I feel I am going to be stuck on my own in a place with no friends in the area or company whilst my DH travels to Monaco etc etc.
My hormones/ intuition are screaming NO NO NO , but I am not sure if it is because I am pregnant, or insecure because I am pregnant and am going to need my husband through this pregnancy and my intuition is telling me if we live next door to this guy this is not going to happen. I keep telling myself my DH is sensible and is completely different ( as I am) now. I tell myself he cares about me and will obviously not do anything to hurt me. However, I understand very well the temptation of this lifestyle . Very well. I just feel we need to be more sensible and take less risks at this time and think about our baby. Maybe this is unrealistic though and I am being needy?
Am I being insecure and unreasonable? Please be honest.
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happywifey · 10/05/2015 11:15
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