My parents became friendly with a couple years ago when I was at primary school. This couple have 2 DCs; a girl a year younger than me and a boy three years younger than me. We are now all in our thirties.
I didn't have a very nice childhood but it was made even worse by my parents' obsession with their friends' kids, which has even carried on until today, as my parents and this couple are still good friends.
When I was a child, it was them saying things like the other children were better behaved than me, or were nicer than me, or were more fun than me. When we met up with them as a family, which we often did, my parents were always very affectionate to these other children, letting them sit on their laps and holding their hands, which my parents would never do with me. I would just basically be excluded and ignored, scorned a bit, and talked about.
Now I'm an adult, it's no better. During my pregnancies my mum showed no interest at all. Yet the wife of the other couple's son has just had a baby and my mum was so excited throughout the whole pregnancy and even went down to see them all when baby was a few days old. She has since gone on and on about how wonderful this baby is and how good the baby's mum is as a mother. Yet my mum does nothing but criticise my parenting.
The son of the couple has a pet cat. My parents are always going on about what a gorgeous cat he is and how lovely, yet they won't go near my cat and say my cat is ugly!! I know it sounds silly.
Plus I am always being compared to the other couples' children, constantly. Nothing I do is ever good enough but if my mum gets a birthday card from one of the other ones she goes on about it.
I am feeling like going NC with my parents over this, it has worn me down and I have had enough. I have tried to talk to my parents so many times but they have said I'm jealous!
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My parents are obsessed with their friends' children
chocolateade · 24/04/2015 14:45
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