I met my friend just over a year ago. We meet somewhat frequently with our children who are the same age (probably about once a month). We often text and chat on the phone throughout the week etc.
I have been super busy with work the last week and also a close family member suddenly and unexpectedly died 2 days ago. I have still managed to text my friend and when my replies have been a bit late (i.e. a day max) I have always apologised. Until I got her text today, it was her 'turn' to respond to a message I sent her if that makes sense.
Anyway, I got a message from her today saying that she thinks I must be annoyed with her because I have not been answering her messages and that she wished I would have just told her what the problem was rather than 'ignoring' her. I was like 'whoah' when I saw it. I felt the tone was quite harsh. I checked my phone history to see if I had in fact forgotten to reply to her messages and actually I had replied to all of them. Also, it was actually her who had not replied to several of my messages. I am the kind of person who will just assume someone is busy if I don't get a message for a bit. I met up with another friend today and showed her the thread of messages and she said that it did seem abit over the top and weird that my other friend has done this.
I just feel like this friend has gone a bit weird on me and this comes across as being a bit needy etc. I texted her back saying that I have not been annoyed with her etc and suggested that possibly there was something wrong with our phones if she has been sending messages that I have not replied to because as far as I can see I have responded to all her messages and it seems like it was the other way round (not that I am remotely bothered about her not getting back to me immediately- I just thought she must be busy).
If it was me, that I felt a friend had gone a bit quiet my first thought would have been 'is my friend ok' and said something like 'I've noticed you have been a bit quiet, are you ok?' rather than jump down someones throat about ignoring me. For example she does not know that I have been extremely busy with work (literally having to stay up until 3am some nights this last week to get work finished in time) AND my recent bereavement. She just comes across as being quite self absorbed and paranoid. I just feel a bit disappointed because otherwise she is good company etc.
I'm sorry this is so long and potentially a bit petty but just wanted to see what other people think and how to handle.
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