Very brief history - both my parents are narcs and highly toxic, have been very low contact for the past few years (see them about once a year, text message every 3-4 weeks, no phonecalls). I'm still grieving our relationship but life is definitely better this way. I'm no contact with highly toxic and scary brother. Am in contact with my sister but get zero emotional support from her, just stick to chatty topics.
First cousin on my mother's side is getting married in the summer. I have not seen this guy for about 15 years and have no relationship whatsoever with him. Apparently, the whole family is invited - me and siblings plus all our partners, my parents, my mum's brothers and sisters.
I am set on my decision to not go to this wedding. I am very much the 'black sheep' of the family and, surrounded by her family, there would be too many opportunities for my mother to be a toxic bullying nightmare. So it would be madness to put myself in that situation. However, my sister will be flying home from the Middle East for a couple of weeks around the time of the wedding and I do want to see her. So that means I can't say we have booked a holiday or similar around that time, as I will be visiting some time around the date of the wedding.
I'm fine with saying that we won't be attending and just saying 'that weekend doesnt' work for us sadly' but what do I say if I get pushed to explain exactly why? Some of my family members may well be this cheeky and intrusive and I want to stay strong if/when I need to. So I just need a final push and some ideas from you lovely people about how to handle the pressure, if it comes. I'm convinced that not attending the wedding is the right thing to do, just need some extra arrows in my quiver if needed. Thank you
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Toxic parents, family wedding, deciding not to go - in need of some support
Lottapianos · 23/03/2015 12:34
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