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How can I find incognito history on Chrome?

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eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 12:57:54

I just came up to find an incognito window open in chrome on a website that I really would not be ok with my DH watching. Unfortunately by the I had noticed I had force shut down the laptop as it was not responding so I was not able to save the window.

Is there anyway I can find out what he is doing in incognito mode?

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 15-Jan-15 12:59:59

Ask him? A good relationship rather hinges on honesty and trust. If you catch him off-guard & ask him a straight question, presumably you'd be able to judge if his answer was honest or evasive?

eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:02:23

Yes, of course I asked him. He denied everything and looked very uncomfortable. I have no idea if its because he has done something or if a completely unfounded accusation freaked him out. Hence why I really want to know if I can find the history. He will never admit to anything.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 15-Jan-15 13:03:48

Do you trust him?

VanitasVanitatum Thu 15-Jan-15 13:05:43

Unless your web browser is set to automatically open new windows in incognito mode this can't have been a pop up.

hedwig2001 Thu 15-Jan-15 13:06:11

The whole point of incognito is that there is no history stored. That is why he used it.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 15-Jan-15 13:07:05

Is your relationship a good one? Happy? Do you feel loved and appreciated? Do you trust each other? Up to now have you had any reason not to trust each other?

MrsHathaway Thu 15-Jan-15 13:10:05

The whole point of incognito mode is that it doesn't save history or send local information to the website. It's called Porn Mode in this house.

I think you'd need a forensic team to recover the history now.

"I know you looked at xyz because I saw it. And you looked at it incognito because you didn't want me to know. It isn't ok to treat me like an idiot and it isn't ok to visit xyz sites."

And wait. Don't talk again for ten minutes.

I'm sorry you're in this position.

InfinitySeven Thu 15-Jan-15 13:12:53

Yep, incognito is untrackable. I mean, forensic scientists could get the data back, but it'd be hugely expensive. And probably only possible if the video was illegal in some way.

MrsHathaways approach seems good, I'd go with that.

eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:25:16

Well I managed to log into his account. No denying it now.

kittensinmydinner Thu 15-Jan-15 13:33:02

I'm slightly �� at you saying he was on a website that you wouldn't be ok with. Can understand monitoring children's Internet use, but your husbands ? I am guessing you think he was looking at porn. If so, just tell him not to do it while you are in the house if it makes you uncomfortable. You can't tell another adult what they can or can't view, you can only tell them how you feel and what you will do if your feelings are not taken into account. A conversation where You tell him not to look at porn and he agrees is pretty much a waste of time because he will either agree and not do it, or agree and still do it but because the Internet is pretty much accessible from everywhere and you will never know.

sooperdooper Thu 15-Jan-15 13:35:05

What was the website?

eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:39:17

Does anyone know anything about myfreecams? Is this a hook up website? He has people saved as favourites etc. He has money is this accounts website so I guess that means he pays to view live videos of people. Porn I could just about handle but this seems personal.

Anyone with knowledge of experience of the site I would appreciate to hear from you.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 15-Jan-15 13:40:49

I expect it is exactly what it sounds like

HootyMcTooty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:40:49

Kittens - with all due respect, sure you can't tell another person not to do something, but it's perfectly ok to tell a person that you don't want to be in a relationship with a person who views porn or whatever. Everyone has a right to set their own boundaries.

eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:44:41

What does it sound like? Seriously I don't know anything about this kind of thing. He has been "tipping" women £25 etc. Does that mean he is paying for services that he sees on the cam. Please do not be harsh with me. I am pregnant and feel like I am dying. I just need to get an idea of what is happening here.

HootyMcTooty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:45:21

OP I'm not an expert, but it sounds like a webcam site to me. If he's paying money it probably means he's able to interact with the, erm, performers, to give instructions etc.

I'm sorry he's done this. Save every bit of evidence you've found. What are you going to do?

Personally I'd give him one chance to come clean on everything, then decide what to do (FWIW this would be a deal breaker for me, but I'd want to see him admit it before kicking him out). If he refuses to admit it, I think it would be a case of "ok, your choice. Pack your bags".

eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:48:57

He has lied at every opportunity. I just asked him if he was chatting to women. He said not for years, just looking. I just found chat transcripts from a few days ago.

HootyMcTooty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:49:09

And just to warn you, at some point this thread is going to turn into an argument about porn/internet services. They nearly always do.

Whatever your views, whatever you decide, please remember that you have every right to decide what behaviour you find acceptable in a marriage. You don't need to accept anything you're not happy with just because your DH or strangers on an Internet forum minimise it and tell you you're overreacting.

eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:51:03

Does anyone know where I can find all his chat history. I only stumbled across one on one user. I want to see it all.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 15-Jan-15 13:53:51

It also sounds like a live webcam to me as well. Women perform sex acts & customers like your DH pay to watch.

I think I would give him one chance to tell the truth as well. If he can be honest and apologise, you may be able to work something out. If he carries on being deceitful and wasting family money on peep shows, it's going to be far more difficult.

HootyMcTooty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:54:16

Why do you need to torture yourself with seeing more?

I think you've seen enough to make a decision. He's viewed webcams, interacted with women in an intimate way, spent family money on it and lied to you.

I'm sorry you're going through this, particularly when you're pregnant, you deserve better.

eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:55:21

I've found it all.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 15-Jan-15 13:56:31

I think you're going the wrong way about it by wanting to see the chat history etc. I know you say he will never admit to anything .... and that's a pretty damning statement all by itself.... so I can understand why you'd want chapter and verse. But I think you have to assume the worst, crack on you know a lot more than you do, and then make it his responsibility to prove otherwise.

How is he paying btw? Credit card bills might tell you a lot more than chat history.

eggplanty Thu 15-Jan-15 13:57:57

Does anyone know is this like a site where people arrange to meet up and have/pay for sex?

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