Hello,
I posted a thread a few months back under a different name. I was having a truly horrible time and wanted to no longer exist. I'd had some awful relationships and was really struggling with everything. I got some very kind and fabulous advice. I am in a much better place now, still working on my self esteem and assertiveness but I have a lot to thank you people for.
On to more fun matters (well it is equal parts fun and excruciating), I met a guy who I have fallen for big time. The way you fall in love as a teenager. I don't know if it's a product of my previous horrible relationships or just because I am a general flirting klutz but I get very nervous and seem to be unable to not feel like a tit when I am in his company. I feel all hot and timid when I talk to him and then I get all flustered and have to basically do a runner. It's been a good few months since we met, and on first sight I totally fancied him, but it has gradually become an all consuming beast. I feel so silly and immature!
He is really friendly and can be quite flirtatious but I don't know if I have made that up; the pessimist in me (who is quite dominant) says he is like that with everyone, he has no reason to be interested in me, and the instances where he seems to be in the same place as me for no clear reason are just coincidence. I have engineered situations that give me excuses to walk past and say hi and he has caught me staring at him several times so I don't think I could be any more obvious.
It's basically taking over my life, I can't concentrate at work or at home or in the supermarket, I think about him all the time. My friends say I should make a move, nothing terrible will happen, but the thought of him turning me down crushes me!
I'm not sure what I am asking. This will pass, right? How do I talk to a boy I like? Why do I not know this already? I am 31 ffs!
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There's a boy I like... save me from my massive crush, I can't concentrate!
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LidlMix · 11/01/2015 01:15
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