Hi, just wondering if I have lost perspective a little! Dh and I have been together nearly 20 yrs, married 14 yrs and have two primary aged dc. We are in our late thirties now, and when we met we had the same circle of friends, but as our friends gradually moved away (we met at uni) and we also moved to a new area after having dc, our social lives are now pretty much separate and I feel a bit sad about it.
I have several friends I've met through having dc, all are lovely but we tend to meet for coffee in the day rather than go out in the evening, I work part-time so it's not that often. Dh has worked at the same place for a few years and goes out once every few weeks with the younger people there, mostly women in their twenties and they all go out to get hammered. I would feel odd going with them, I can't drink much these days anyway and don't particularly want to, the hangovers would kill me! There is one woman dh is quite close to who is our age, married with dc but she also goes out to get drunk. It's not often but when they all go out for some reason I get quite down, it reminds me of our going out days when we were younger and makes me feel old and boring. But I also wouldn't want to go (have tried a couple of times in the past) - I feel awkward and as if dh probably acts differently if I'm there, as if I'm his mum or something!
I think maybe I'd feel differently if dh and I also went out on our own, but we don't these days. A couple of times in the past year we've been out on our own, but it can feel awkward.
We are happy together, I love our little family, the dc adore him and I don't want dh and I to
drift apart.
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Fairdos · 08/01/2015 22:03
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