Hi all, odd one here, and I admit I am mainly at fault.
DH and I only recurring theme, not really an argument as we are not the arguing types, is about the time I get up in the mornings and my help with dinner/lunches etc.
DH hops right out of bed when alarm goes off, is downstairs eating breakfast within 15mins and normally makes my lunch for me while he's at it. I find it v v hard to get up in mornings, and rarely have time for breakfast. I just can't seem to drag myself out of bed! I know DH would love it if we could have breakfast together and but no matter how hard I try I can't try hard enough, I don't know what is wrong with me :( you would have thought getting out of bed wouldn't be that hard!
Secondly is dinner. DH does most of all with occasional help from me the cooking. I don't dislike cooking, but he does everything fast, it takes me ages, by the time I've decided what to cook and started to prepare he would already be sitting down to eat. Same with washing up - he doesn't mind doing it (no, really, he even does it at my parents when they have a dishwasher!) and eats dinner so fast by the time I've finished eating he has done all the washing up (not entirely intentional)
Basically, I know I need to contribute more round the house by doing more cooking, and doing lunches etc. how do I do this when he always does it before I do as assumes I won't get round to it? He gives me an easy get out clause really. You could just tell me to stop being so lazy and get on with it. That is essentially what I got to do. And I spose if I made lunch the night before then wouldn't be such a rush in morning. The thing is now I ask him if it is ok if x y z he does/I don't do and he has now taken to saying ''do what you want to do'' except then gets annoyed when I actually do (and he doesn't say it in a mean/sarcastic way). It would be better of he told me at the time he would really like help etc instead of storing it all up, but then again I suppose he shouldn't have to ask for it in the first place.
Dunno just wanted other opinions. I am sure you will all call me lazy, but it feels better to write it down.
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Advice please - how to be more proactive and please DH
WantToGoingTo · 08/01/2015 20:02
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