I don't want this to sound like a moan so please be gentle with me!
I've always been the sort of person people talk to about the problems and I will help where I can. Generally it's ok but lately it is too much especially as I have a lot on my own plate right now.
I realise I need to look at why I get into these situations in the first place but there is a situation I need to deal with now. Someone is relying heavily on me; texts, calls, visits. I have done what I can and they are getting proper help but still wanting to recount every detail to me and ask my opinion. I don't have the capacity, time or emotional but don't want to offend or let down an already vulnerable person.
The problems are likely to run and I want to at least reduce my involvement, ideally disappear! They are not even someone I know that well (via playgroup/playdates).
Does anyone else get into similar situations and how do you deal with it? I find it very difficult to say no which is probably how I end up like this! It isn't a moan and I know it's not a big problem but, although I choose not to share with everyone, I am going through a bit of a difficult time and need to minimise stuff so I can hold it together for myself.
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eachpeachbarebum · 07/01/2015 23:40
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