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How do you deal with friends who speak to you abruptly but are nice and sugary to everyone else? to everyonv

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Wantedthunder Wed 07-Jan-15 09:31:10

I have had this in the past with a friend and am now having it currently with another friend.

It's mainly on Facebook, although she is like it in person too. She is very sugary and sweet and nice to everyone else but comments very abruptly on my statuses and pictures and is quite abrupt with the way she speaks to me too.

I posted something a couple of days ago about a tv programme and her reply was "It's a tv show!" which I thought was rude, as of course I knew it was a tv show! I know that if other people posted a similar thing to me she'd be all nice in her replies.

She is also quite sarcastic towards me, and not to others.

Reading back through this I do realise it sounds ridiculous, but it's really getting to me.

Wantedthunder Wed 07-Jan-15 09:32:07

Please excuse odd title. Not quite sure what happened there!!

GoatsDoRoam Wed 07-Jan-15 09:33:35

Well, she's showing you the amount of esteem she holds you in, relative to others.

You choose whether you want to keep her in your life or not.

WinterShivers Wed 07-Jan-15 09:38:41

Why are you still friends with her?

2015Queen Wed 07-Jan-15 09:39:40

I had this with a friend in the past and found the thing that worked for me was just ignoring her replies on my facebook, and her texts, if they were abrupt or rude in any shape or form.

She seems to have realised that the only way to get a response from me is to be nice.

expatinscotland Wed 07-Jan-15 09:40:55

She's not a friend. Block her on FB, minimise contact with her in real life.

Meerka Wed 07-Jan-15 09:53:27

What do I do? Call her an ex-friend.

iamthenewgirl Wed 07-Jan-15 09:58:26

Try 2015Queen's approach.

Failing that, ditch her. Life is too short.

GoatsDoRoam Wed 07-Jan-15 10:14:23

I have a friend who is sometimes breathtakingly rude and abrupt by email and social media. The thing is, she is like that with everybody, and she's a lot better face-to-face. She just has a really poor grasp of written language etiquette, I guess. (my friends and I often wonder how often this causes her trouble at work).

So I wonder if your friend is one of these.

However, you do say that she's not like that with other people. If that's really the case, then she sounds like she enjoys being unpleasant to you, personally, which is a good reason to just phase her out and stop letting what she does bother you.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Wed 07-Jan-15 10:27:38

I just minimize contact with them. Life's too short.

flipchart Wed 07-Jan-15 11:35:31

I can not be bothered with crap like that.
Seriously? I would dump.

Maybe not block on FB yet but certainly wouldn't be commenting or likening her replies.

I had a friend who spoke to me abruptly several times and I did say to her ' who the hell do you think you're talking to?' It soon stopped.

I'm not a whipping post for anyone.

beaglesaresweet Wed 07-Jan-15 11:47:25

OP, why do you call her 'a friend' then? she isn't.

borisgudanov Thu 08-Jan-15 16:35:48

You tell them to fuck off. Simples.

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