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How do you deal with friends who speak to you abruptly but are nice and sugary to everyone else? to everyonv

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Wantedthunder · 07/01/2015 09:31

I have had this in the past with a friend and am now having it currently with another friend.

It's mainly on Facebook, although she is like it in person too. She is very sugary and sweet and nice to everyone else but comments very abruptly on my statuses and pictures and is quite abrupt with the way she speaks to me too.

I posted something a couple of days ago about a tv programme and her reply was "It's a tv show!" which I thought was rude, as of course I knew it was a tv show! I know that if other people posted a similar thing to me she'd be all nice in her replies.

She is also quite sarcastic towards me, and not to others.

Reading back through this I do realise it sounds ridiculous, but it's really getting to me.

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Wantedthunder · 07/01/2015 09:32

Please excuse odd title. Not quite sure what happened there!!

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GoatsDoRoam · 07/01/2015 09:33

Well, she's showing you the amount of esteem she holds you in, relative to others.

You choose whether you want to keep her in your life or not.

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WinterShivers · 07/01/2015 09:38

Why are you still friends with her?

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2015Queen · 07/01/2015 09:39

I had this with a friend in the past and found the thing that worked for me was just ignoring her replies on my facebook, and her texts, if they were abrupt or rude in any shape or form.

She seems to have realised that the only way to get a response from me is to be nice.

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expatinscotland · 07/01/2015 09:40

She's not a friend. Block her on FB, minimise contact with her in real life.

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Meerka · 07/01/2015 09:53

What do I do? Call her an ex-friend.

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iamthenewgirl · 07/01/2015 09:58

Try 2015Queen's approach.

Failing that, ditch her. Life is too short.

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GoatsDoRoam · 07/01/2015 10:14

I have a friend who is sometimes breathtakingly rude and abrupt by email and social media. The thing is, she is like that with everybody, and she's a lot better face-to-face. She just has a really poor grasp of written language etiquette, I guess. (my friends and I often wonder how often this causes her trouble at work).

So I wonder if your friend is one of these.

However, you do say that she's not like that with other people. If that's really the case, then she sounds like she enjoys being unpleasant to you, personally, which is a good reason to just phase her out and stop letting what she does bother you.

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 07/01/2015 10:27

I just minimize contact with them. Life's too short.

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flipchart · 07/01/2015 11:35

I can not be bothered with crap like that.
Seriously? I would dump.

Maybe not block on FB yet but certainly wouldn't be commenting or likening her replies.

I had a friend who spoke to me abruptly several times and I did say to her ' who the hell do you think you're talking to?' It soon stopped.

I'm not a whipping post for anyone.