We never argue.
We don't live together because of circumstances (mainly mine with a severely disabled child and his unsociable working hours) but have been together for years and are usually partners in everything else.
This week he has loads of time off work after having nine at all all over December. Unfortunately I have to run a support group and have a social services visit (for direct payments) , and DS only went back to school today, so I only had today to do the whole massive post christmas clean and will have no time to really clean before the SS visit from now. (Obviously a quick sweep and Hoover but not much)
Anyway I told him all this and told him he would be able to have some alone time in the week because I'd be busy and anyway we are doing something all weekend so me and DS would see him loads then anyway.
So, anyway, he text me today and said he had got up early so he could pick up DS from school, sweet of him I thought so I said I was taking DS out for tea because I didn't want to make a mess in the house and offered to pay for him to come and he agreed.
Lovely so far.
But when we got back he walked through the house with his wet shoes on, I asked him to take them off and he said no, I said I've cleaned and won't have more time I really don't want a mess and he said "I fucking hate it while you're like this!" I said I know (I have OCD and anxiety disorder and when everything is normal I'm ok but when we are having visitors, particularly social services, even though they're only the disability team, it does get a bit out of hand, but that's why I warned him to be fair)
Anyway he carried on wearing his shoes and I said "please take them off DP" and he said "there's no point because I'm going" so I just said ok, and he walked out.
Now it is probably for the best he went anyway, I didn't expect him, there's nowhere to sit because I've wet vacced the sofas, and I'm a nightmare in this mode, but now I just feel terrible that we have argued and he has left on a bad note.
I think this is the first argument we have had for about 2 years! We never argue at all, and I just want to make it ok again. I'm aware it was a ridiculous argument as well, over nothing.
Also I just feel really upset and I have no one except DP and DS because I can't really socialise due to DSs complex and high needs so I can't even have a moan at anyone about it just have to sit here smiling and playing with DS like everything is normal.
Shall I text him now and apologise, although part of me thinks he could have just taken off his shoes, but part of me thinks I do go a bit clean crazy when visitors are imminent (even though it's twice a year max really) and I do turn into a totally different person when I do.
It's just stupid. I wish I could just control it and I usually can, it's just when someone's going to visit that I seem to see every tiny spec of invisible dirt and convince myself that they'll see it too and think I'm unclean.
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Hurr1cane · 06/01/2015 17:50
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