I've endured decades of stress and worry re my 4 dc-2 boys 2 girls.
now in their 40's/50/s it still keeps coming.
last year ds...who is 51...returned from living in new Zealand, homeless and penniless, turned our lives upside down, then returned to nz, ...end of.
youngest dd turns up, "borrowing" money, turns my life upside down again, then disappears again.
next month, ds who is 48, says he is coming "home" as his work visa has expired , been working abroad for 2 years.
has no savings, nowhere to live, no job, no car, just expects me to pick up the pieces yet again.? just turn up at heathrow?
he was given/offered amazing opportunities in the past, college/uni, different course, and supported constantly.
yet he has made a total mess of his life, both working and personal.
he is a kind and thoughtful man, but is just like a feather in the wind, going which way the wind blows.
what do I do when he simply turns up ?
I have had a "difficult" life, battling for survival , yet managing to provide for the dc while they were young.
but, now I want/need some peace for myself.
am I being selfish?
my dh has endured the worry and anxieties of the last 3 decades, we just want to hide away in our little bubble, and leave them to it now.
help please.
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i'm 71, but the stress keeps on coming, advice please......
tryingtogetusername · 05/01/2015 11:04
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