Earlier this week my ex and I got back in contact. We discussed being together and I spent the night with him. He then decided he wanted the weekend to go out and enjoy himself and told me he would see me today to speak about us. I haven't heard anything from him all day. It's really getting me down because I feel like he has used me. Any advice on what to do next?
Anything is better for you right now than waiting pathetically by the phone for some ex to get in touch with another booty call. You're better than that. Fill your diary, see friends, wallpaper a room, whatever it takes ....
To be honest elsa we actually split up about 5 months ago and I was near enough over it. When we first split I was devastated but went NC and things got better. He then got back in touch and acknowledged the problems we had etc.. Made me think we had a real chance. Maybe this is why it hurts so badly because it's like one step forward and two steps back...
Make this the last step back, out of the relationship, eh? If he calls again, no matter what line he tries ('we're worth another go', 'you never really loved me if you won't try again' blah blah), remember this day you spent waiting for the call that never came, and say 'nah, don't fancy it thanks all the same.' and on you go.
"Maybe this is why it hurts so badly because it's like one step forward and two steps back.."
Breakups are hard and you can spend a lot of time wishing you were back together, in the process of which you'll only remember the good times and your judgement can get skewed. Sometimes you have to have a nasty experience with an ex to smash the rose-coloured spectacles good and proper.
Face forward OP.... make a new life that excludes this manipulative creep for good. You've had a lucky escape.
He may have been using you all along or he may have suddenly got cold feet, it's hard to say.
I just posted on another thread about how I slept with an ex, thinking it was just sex (and we did both say it was just sex) but then he started telling me afterwards that he wanted to get back with me and he thought that was why I'd slept with him. I felt like a right arsehole, and saying no that was never my intention was horrible. Anyway, the moral of this story is sleeping with exes is not a very good idea. The lines are easily blurred and you'll just hurt yourself. I know you said you'd discussed getting back together but it doesn't sound 100 per cent clear and unfortunately a lot of people like to have their cake and eat it. He gets to have sex with you then gets to go off to decide whether you're worthy of a relationship with him? Fuck that.
It sounds like he thinks you'll always be sitting there waiting for him and he can pick up where things left off as and when he feels like it. So show him that you won't be.