If it's not working out for you what could you do to change things? Might it be an idea for you to move out if he doesn't? Why is March significant? Is his depression diagnosed and being treated, and what effect is it having on your living environment?
I did it for about 6 months, to be honest I think I just got through day to day but I must have erased it from my memory as I can't really remember much about it. So there is hope - once you have got through it you might forget as well
4 months in. Horrendous. He refuses to move out. Won't consider looking for somewhere. Wants to buy AFTER the consent order. And is now rather surprised that I've filed for divorce and am pushing to get things sorted asap. He can't fathom why I wasn't prepared to wait 2 years! Stupid man! You have my sympathies...... Its the most awful situation to be in. We don't speak. At all. Which is a little tricky in the same house with 2dcs.
I am in the same house and have been ignored for 8months and have lost my nerve over xmas period was going to a solicitor last Friday. I think being in the same house over a week without work as sucked my energy and confidence. Hearing u brave ladies I am praying I will once again have the confidence to get out for good. good luck there is light at the end of the tunnel. x
Stbxh and I lived together for a year after agreeing to part.... We went through depression, anger, loathing and irritation but being stuck under the same roof and having to keep some semblance of normality for the dc we ended up getting on. We didn' tell the dc we were splitting for 9 months but we were doing parallel parenting under one roof by then and they weren't that suprised. Once we came through the anger and bitterness (helped by him meeting new P less than a month after we split) we remembered we have a fair bit in common and 3 great dc and without the pressure of being in a relationship with each other managed to get along as mates. Now he's gone we still see each other and stop for a coffee when swapping kids over at each others houses and each have keys for both places. I am glad we had the year to 'uncouple' and show dc that we can be friends and get along now. We lived together for 13 years so know each others foibles, likes and dislikes and had the best evening together for years over a bottle of wine about six weeks before he left and will message each other about kids /something we find amusing on the radio etc frequently. Is not all bad once you move in enough to get past the wanting to clean the loo rim with his toothbrush stage. Life is too short... But he wasn't abusive just self centred/selfish /pa. Good luck to you all.
OP am in the same boat I basically get 2 days of ok and a day if anger, moods, tears, and STBX making everything harder than it needs to be.
I feel for him but he know ultimately he destroyed our marriage so it's hard to have to keep him going through dark times.
But with 3 DC what are you going to do? We have to keep going I think.
Urgh it's just Urgh!!!
But I'll tell you this.....everyday I am reassured I'm doing the right thing by his crappy behavior and inability to ever out me before himself.
I too get grief for "being ok" and I "have everything I want". It makes me very sad and angry I never wanted this! STBX killed the live in our marriage. It feels like slow torture, like he's punishing me while he can.
Same position here, divorce started Jan 2014, he moved out after 5 months of me begging him to as he had OW and now he's moving back in!!
He will not respond to any of my proposals for financial settlement through our solicitors so am now applying to court.
It is a living hell and the kids are stuck in the middle. He didn't want to be married to me and hated living with me so goodness knows why he has unilaterally decided to move back in for what will probably be another year (money!).