Mil died 3 years ago. She tolerated me, I know I was not her cup of tea.
Anyhow, I organized for dhs family to get together for a meal every year on her birthday. It's extended family too.
This year I haven't mentioned it, so fil took the lead & organized things. All good.
I'm working on the day arranged but can get there if it's tea time.
Dh mentioned this during the arrangements. Fil kind of smiled then continued with arranging afternoon.
Again, I know none of dh s family like me so it's fine by me.
My son is asking why I can't come. Told him I am working. I think he is twigging that all isn't rosy, this makes me sad.
Families are hard work .
So, do I go home after work or nip in knowing it will piss them off for a drink? I know she & my kids will be happy to see me, but it IS for late mil so don't want to upset anyone.
Btw I can piss them off by doing nothing at all, that's the way it's been for 20 years.
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They couldnt make it any more obvious, but my kids will notice. thats what pisses me off.
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