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Do I go or not?

(16 Posts)
Confusedaboutdate Thu 01-Jan-15 18:16:26

Arranged to meet up with old friend in London this weekend. Going to a show then stay in hotel (twin beds). Bit of history he was once married to a friend of mine, he always made me laugh and is a lovely man.
Since agreeing to go he is messaging telling me I am his unrequited love, how romantic it will be this weekend etc. I am now having second thoughts about going. I was looking forward to seeing him and having a much needed laugh but it has all turned a little unpleasant.
I have been clear that although single I have no interest in him romantically but am I being unfair arranging to meet him?
I am not sure what i am scared of exactly, I am sure I would be safe but a fun couple of days with a friend has turned into something else entirely.
Am I over thinking this or am I being a bitch to him knowing how I feel?

Joysmum Thu 01-Jan-15 18:17:48

No way I'd share a hotel room with anyone saying that sort of thing to me if I wasn't interested in them that way.

HouseWhereNobodyLives Thu 01-Jan-15 18:17:52

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HouseWhereNobodyLives Thu 01-Jan-15 18:18:59

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SurlyCue Thu 01-Jan-15 18:19:01

Nope i wouldnt go. He's made it clear he wants more.

RandomNPC Thu 01-Jan-15 18:20:02

No, you shouldn't go.

Confusedaboutdate Thu 01-Jan-15 18:22:05

Thank you for the replies ladies I thought the same, feel bad for cancelling and can think of no real reason to give apart from I feel uncomfortable. Thanks for the responses smile

HouseWhereNobodyLives Thu 01-Jan-15 18:24:07

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LineRunner Thu 01-Jan-15 18:26:06

Well, being blunt, I imagine you're worried he might try to have sex with you and have piss poor boundaries.

Confusedaboutdate Thu 01-Jan-15 18:28:31

Beautifully put LineRunner exactly what I am scared of, I am sure it would not be the case and he would be a gentleman but...

LineRunner Thu 01-Jan-15 18:40:51

I don't think you are sure, though.

Cupoteap Thu 01-Jan-15 18:44:31

You need to trust your instinct

LineRunner Thu 01-Jan-15 19:06:12

Read your OP again. You say you are 'sure' but you do also use the words 'romantic' and 'scared'. So you are fearful of the unwelcome lunge I reckon, whether it be 'just' a hug, kiss, or more.

Is this because it would be embarrassing? Or do you have further worries? I think you need to articulate these, tbh.

CleanLinesSharpEdges Thu 01-Jan-15 19:10:01

To be totally honest I'd be terrified he'd spike my drink or something, no way would I share a hotel room with him.

HouseWhereNobodyLives Thu 01-Jan-15 19:29:56

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Confusedaboutdate Thu 01-Jan-15 19:43:07

I have cancelled and I feel much better, I was ok with the arrangement as we are good friends but the messages have made me feel uncomfortable.
Thank you all for your replies smile

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