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Heartache on New Years Eve..

(76 Posts)
Applecrumbling Wed 31-Dec-14 16:53:14

Ok, split a few weeks ago. It's tough! Emotional and painful. Anyone else?

brokenhearted55a Wed 31-Dec-14 17:03:06

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Applecrumbling Wed 31-Dec-14 17:05:31

Well my ex h is with new woman and ds. I've split with partner on my own. Where do you go from here?!

FrogIsATwatInASantaHat Wed 31-Dec-14 17:06:58

Same here. Roll on bedtime sad

Applecrumbling Wed 31-Dec-14 17:09:48

Strength to everyone in same boat. So hard ��

sleepwhendead Wed 31-Dec-14 17:10:21


i pressed the self destruct button on my own life a few weeks ago. ive done it really well and made sure ive hurt as many people as possible plus myself to the point i wont see light of day again for quite some time.

im working tomorrow so plan tonight is to drink a couple of glasses of wine, take a bath, a sleeping pill and wake up tomorrow having dodged the merrymaking.

i am as miserable as miserable gets. im still living with ex and its horrendous.
and new man called an end to relationship days before xmas.

so im alone. sad. cant get drunk. and very very tired as not sleeping.

happy fucking new year....

Applecrumbling Wed 31-Dec-14 17:11:58

Swd. Sympathise, let's hope we get through it. Strength to you

AuditAngel Wed 31-Dec-14 17:44:05

I'm sorry you are all going through this. It sucks. We have a terminally ill relative who is deteriorating rapidly. I'm really glad he made it through Christmas though. I am planning on taking it easy tonight in case I am needed tomorrow.

Thinking of anyone who is finding tonight hard.

Aloneandnowwhat Wed 31-Dec-14 18:20:28

I was dumped on Christmas Eve and am now allowing myself to be re-dumped tonight, or rather waiting for his decision like some desperate loser.
Roll on bed time!

Namaste100 Wed 31-Dec-14 18:43:53

So much much emotion at this time of year..."Self destruct" echoes Sleepwhendead.....
If somebody had told me 12 months ago that I would be in the shite self inflicted position Im in today I would have thought they were more nuts than I ended up!!!
Past thread will explain..and I take full responsibility for my infidelity..but not my breakdown and suffering the effects of many horrid situations as a youngster...I had an option to stay in and mope or go out with a pal ( I feel like a gooseberry tag on saddo) Iv chose go out as if I feel like I did Boxing day I fear being blocked by Samaritans as a nuisance caller...JD and Coke Im coming to get you!!!!
I going to post this as my own thread in hope others will wallow with me!!!

ThankGodThatsOver Wed 31-Dec-14 18:51:20

This is my third Christmas post-separation/divorce and I can't say it has got any easier. It should have shouldn't it but so many things still not sorted. Trying to be positive about the year ahead but realistically I know it won't be any easier.

Don't know what to do this evening. Will probably avoid the jollities on tv.

nikki1978 Wed 31-Dec-14 18:55:04

Dh is in surgery and i am home with kids. Hospital is 30 mins away. Surgery I'd minor but has long recovery so I am worried sad

Hobbitwife001 Wed 31-Dec-14 19:00:37

Yes, me too , miserable as sin, husband fucked off for a woman in the village I thought was a friend to us both, some friend! Also I have come down with a nasty virus. Bath and bed for me , can't even have a drink, as I wouldn't be able to keep it down, and I'm working tomorrow! Woe is me, sad

knightofswords Wed 31-Dec-14 21:07:36

Yes, me too. Separation that's taken a year and still haven't signed the agreement, spending half my life in a country I cannot stand just to be with my kids, tied down to a job I want to change but can't because the money has to come from somewhere, no friends because of the shit situation... still, I will make 2015 a great year and be happy. wine

BlueEyedPersephone Wed 31-Dec-14 21:13:13

Sleepwhendead same here, keep telling myself it will get better and it all happens for a reason. Stay strong

elizalovelacey Wed 31-Dec-14 21:28:28

Very sad to read all of your posts.sad Really hope the new year is a much better one for everyone who is sad tonight, a very un mn hugs to all.

WhatsGoingOnEh Wed 31-Dec-14 21:34:15

I know NYE feels like a shit time to be having a shit time, but it's actually quite cathartic. I was where you all are 5 years ago (DH had left, stuck at home with two tiny kids, no money, couldn't see a future) and it was honestly the start of the best part of my whole life.

I stayed up to watch Big Ben, just because I felt too depressed to heave my arse off the sofa... Then I heard the bells ringing out and felt a WEIGHT lifting. I thought, "thank FUCK that year's over," and went up to bed. The next morning was a brand new start. It was unexpectedly lovely.

Hang in there! Better days are on their way.

knightofswords Wed 31-Dec-14 21:38:18

Thanks WhatsGoing. More inspirational true stories needed please!,,

Izzie595 Wed 31-Dec-14 21:48:03

My H also fucked off with OW a few months ago. I mourn for the man I married, but the stonewalling lying twat he's become since associating with her is not fit to even be in the same room as me! Since splitting, I fully recognise that even without the affair, I can't bear him. I hate the fact that deep down I'm still upset at the end of my marriage though. My kids have gone out for the night. I've had unpleasant contact with him today, and then the twat dares to text me to say he really wishes me well for 2015!! Well I wish him a fatal heart attack so I can take all of his money and I won't ever have to deal with his smugtwat face anymore haha

Fantaface Wed 31-Dec-14 22:13:58

Had the worst year so New Year's Eve was never gona be the best.

Been in bed with my two year old since 6:30pm, with him wiping my tears earlier saying 'mummy don't cry'

Can't get much worse, or can it?!

Neverknowingly Wed 31-Dec-14 22:25:24

:-( really hoping for a fab 2015 for you all. Fwiw I was pretty miserable on 31 Dec 2007 both emotionally and. with a bout of noro to boot. I met now DH on 3 Jan 2008 so things really can turn on a knife edge. Koko, put your cosmic orders in etc etc and positive vibes to you all.

JustDrive Wed 31-Dec-14 23:13:55

This was the thread I would've been on this time a year ago. I had the worst nye ever, spent it crying and full of sadness/regret/pain.

A lot changes in a year, I wish everyone on this thread happiness and hope - things do get better.

Tonight now feels like a normal night. Last year it was such a heartbreaking night. Can't believe how different things are a year on. Hugs to everyone feeling down. 2015 will be amazing!

FushandChups Wed 31-Dec-14 23:14:06

Nothing can be as bad for me as two years ago.. H left me on the 29th and I spent NYE desperately miserable so went to bed about 9 only to end up comforting 1 yo DS at midnight who was freaked out completely by all the fireworks...

I just remember standing in his room and trying to soothe him and wondering how my life had gone so shit!

Learnt a lot since then and whilst I am alone tonight (DC with dick head stbxh) I am no longer sad for the relationship as he turned into a tool of the highest order who killed my love for him dead one day - just wiped out all feelings for him and left only anger.

Actually, am sad I'm not divorced yet but other than that, life is much much MUCH better without him!

thanks to all you lovely women struggling tonight x

Izzie595 Wed 31-Dec-14 23:56:27

Bless all you lovely ladies who have taken the time to send support to others. I'm in bits wondering where it all went so horribly wrong. 32 years down the pan. I know it's just sentimental past love or whatever, but it hurts like hell now.

I know things will get better, they have been. I just wish I hadn't had to contact him today.

Fuck you H, you were too much of a coward to face and talk about things. One of my sons said that I could say I did everything possible to save the marriage, and you did nothing. He's right. Even you admit I made so much effort. Well now one of your sons doesn't even want to know you. All he wanted was a happy family, and you let her destroy that by her actions twisting the knife time and time again. One day you will see what she is like and what you have given up.

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights Thu 01-Jan-15 00:00:17

I hope 2015 is a much better year for everyone x

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