Since finding out we're expecting me and dh have always know that a certain family member were always going to be kept at a distance when our lo arrives. But after this weekend we've decided it would be best to cut ties all together.
Sil has always given us trouble before I was dating dh, sil has a history of attacking him (more than once with a knife), activity trying to break up any friendship or relationship he had and made a very serious false accusations against him.
During our relationship she's made multiple threats of violence, openly screamed unprovoked fowl insults at family events and spread false rumours about me.
Well this weekend was just the cherry on top my dh was summoned for a meeting with his parents which I was not permitted to go to. During this meeting I was accused of writing a fb post slagging sil off, which although tempting I haven't. I use fb mostly for business and have many clients added. I couldn't defend myself and my dh was lectured on my behalf as his mother seems to think he's my keeper. All the past accusations against dh were also brought up again from his sil.
So now I'm expecting we've made the decision to not allow sil near our family.
I'm unsure how to tell his family, I wouldn't have bothered telling them but we're having the baby christened and she'll be expecting an invitation. Despite all the things she's done, sil just COULDN'T understand why she wasn't invited to our small close friends and family wedding. I'd rather get this conversation out of the way before baby arrives and dragon mil demands her presence. Mil knows all that's happened but still fights her corner sil is just misunderstood in her eyes.
I'll never get a face to face talk with her she actively avoids conflict with anyone that she can't manipulate.
Not sure how to tell mil and sol we'be simply had enough and I will not put my child in toxic and potentially dangerous situations.
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Cutting toxic family member off
Nona11 · 30/12/2014 03:20
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