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struggling today - just need a hug

(8 Posts)
greenberet Mon 29-Dec-14 10:15:58

ive been sinking over the last few days - can always tell when on here more- as well as having to deal with a controlling narcisstic STXH & OW i have just been diagnosed with breast cancer - for a while i thought this may change the interraction between DH & myself but i have come to realise that nothing will change - the only discussion he has had with me has been about the critical illness cover! - says it all really! He had the option of spending some of Xmas day with the kids here but chose to spend it with family that kids know he doesnt really like. I get my 2nd lot of results on NYE - i keep telling myself to expect nothing from him & then I wont be disappointed - i know he is with OW - i know im torturing myself- just stuck in limbo again - counsellor on xmas break - and just feel like got another year of challenges i really want to put behind me. thanks for reading

SunshineBossaNova Mon 29-Dec-14 10:18:54

Big hugs and flowers lovely. x

greenberet Mon 29-Dec-14 10:24:38

thanks sunshine - there is something seriously wrong with the world when I get more comfort from someone I have no idea who you are than I do from a man I was married to for 20yrs

infact I'll change that too "something right in the world" - its him thats wrong - thankyou!

inneedofsomeclarity Mon 29-Dec-14 10:34:03

Sending you lots of hugs and strength, keep talking on here, you'll find lots of support xx

Justwanttomoveon Mon 29-Dec-14 10:36:33

Another big bear hug from me flowers so sorry you are going through this, I'm praying you get good news on Nye, having to deal with breast cancer on top of your stbxh and ow, here's another big hug x

Millionsmom Mon 29-Dec-14 10:37:10

I hope you feel 'Up' soon.
I'm also crossing my fingers your results are great when you get them.

greenberet Mon 29-Dec-14 10:40:47

thankyou everyone!

LineRunner Mon 29-Dec-14 10:45:59

Mumsnet is kind of wonderful for support at difficult times. flowers

By the way, you are not alone in the distant Ex thing. I was extremely ill in 2013, which obviously affected care of the DCs, and neither my ExH or his family even contacted me. My then very new partner helped out! I don't know what the psychology of it is, but it doesn't show these Exes in a very good light. Arses.

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