I don't know what to do anymore

[justbatteringon]

My DP has just asked me if he can go get some beer and sit in with a few. I know what some of you are thinking what's the big deal it's just a few drinks no harm, but in his case he can't have a few the last time this happened I said yeah no problem and I got up with the babies at 6 am the next morning to find him gone. Keeping in mind I'd gone downstairs at 2 am for a drink and he was still there.

On another occasion I'd gone out for a birthday party very rare and came back to find him pissed its a long story the police were called I've just recently had a visit from a SW. He promised after that time he wouldn't drink anymore and that would be the end of it. We've been together for 8 years and alcohol has always been an issue for him it's made him lose numerous jobs and countless fights between us inow fact he's rarely had a job in the time we've been together.

After that super long explanation do you think I'm being unreasonable do you think I'm in the wrong I always feel very guilty when I say no and usually give in.

[MrsPepperMintonCandyCane]

Just say no you can't. I'm afraid though that he will probably do it anyway. He clearly has a problem with alcohol. You have my sympathy because unless he decides to change he will let you down time after time with this.

[MrsPepperMintonCandyCane]

Do you live together? Or is he visiting?

[justbatteringon]

We love together and have done for many years

[gamerchick]

Tell him he can do what he wants but you'll be locking the door for the night when he goes for them.

You know he's going to pick a fight to get some. Cut out the bullshit and the stress from the off.

[justbatteringon]

Live

[MrsPepperMintonCandyCane]

I would tell him that if he drinks he leaves then. If a SW being involved hasn't stopped him though then I think you'll find he will still go and drink so like Gamerchick said I'd lock the door on him.

[justbatteringon]

I've told him no. He's gone upstairs to huff read I'll let you know how it goes.

[MrsPepperMintonCandyCane]

Well done. I spent five years on a drinking merry go round with my DH. He had alcoholic parents who both died because of drinking so I do know how hard it is when they huff read.

[Wrapdress]

It's hard to compete with alcohol and it's hard to externally control someone else's relationship with alcohol.