Relationships advice

[Noor123]

Hello, I have never written anything like this before but, I could do with an advice. Basically I have been married for 4 years but been with my husband for 10 years we have 2 kids together, I have always loved and always cared for him. The problem is I don't think he cares about me anymore (come to think of it I don't think he ever did) when we had our first child he cheated on me when DA was only 4 months I only found out as I got std from him he denied it first but later confessed saying he was under the influence of alcohol. It was very hard for me but I forgave him. The problem is I work long hours I never have time for myself and I pay for absolutely everything he never paid for a thing since we been together,he tells me I'm ugly sometimes and he has pushed and shoved me at times even when I was pregnant. He has told me I'm lazy even though I work average 60 hours a week plus do the house chores. He tells I should just work 7 days a week as I make too much mess when I'm home. The worst thing is he embarrasses me in front of my friend by telling them I'm a crap wife and mother. He attacked me once infront of my child and now she often remembers and asks why daddy was"killing mummy" I have done everything for him however I get nothing in return. He is a great dad but I feel like walking on eggshells and constantly worry about upsetting him. Even though I know this is wrong I don't want to brak up my family and worry for kids and I don't want to be a single parent.

[Twinklebells]

you need Women's Aid and to report him to the police. Being a single parent is the only option - you cannot let him behave like this in front of your child. He is not a great dad - he is just sponging off you.

[Lagoonablue]

Throw him out. Seek help. He is abusive. I think you know this. He is not a great dad is he? He attacked you in front of your child.

You need to leave him.

[Cabrinha]

How is he a great dad when he has made a child scared that he will kill their mother?
I'd say in the top 10 worst things you can do to a child, that's in at about number 5.
What an absolute fucking bastard.
Your poor child.

And poor you.

[NameChange30]

He is abusive. You have to leave him. Please call 0808 2000 247, this is the 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline. They will be able to advise and reassure you.
Good luck

[CalleighDoodle]

He is not a great dad. He is an abusive arse hold. Take the advice above and Good luck x

[GelfBride]

Abusive cocklodger OP. Get rid.

[BuzzardBirdRoast]

Second Women's Aid and Police. You and your daughter need protecting. You are teaching her to stay with abusive men. Leave.