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Sat in bed crying my eyes out

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SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 20:03

Don't even know what just happened, DH has a few friends round for drinks, ive been sat in living room out the way then decided fuck it I'm going to the pub, told dp my plans and he wasn't amused

Anyway as I'm getting my coat on i hear him say "if i knew she was going out i would have got the strippers in" he intended me to hear that, so in a lighthearted way looked into kitchen and said "i heard that" and laughed.

Now ive just spent the last 10 mins being screamed at by DH for "ruining his night" and "showing him up in front of his mates" he's told me he wants nothing more to do with me, i can just fuck off etc

Now ive fucked the pub off, cant go out looking like this, I'm sat in bed crying wondering what the fuck ive actually done to deserve the abuse ive just gotten. I feel humiliated in front of his friends and i haven't even done anything.

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mrscumberbatch · 27/12/2014 20:06

Go to the pub. Read him the riot act tomorrow. He was being a twat.

BumWad · 27/12/2014 20:07

Your DH is a knob

tribpot · 27/12/2014 20:08

I was already lost at the point where your DH didn't like your plan to go to the pub? What the hell difference did it make to him?

He must have severely embarrassed himself in front of his mates going ballistic at you over you effectively playing along with his not-even-slightly-hilarious joke. I'm assuming they must have heard this? Was it actually in front of them?

Why do you think you must have done something to deserve this abuse? The answer is quite simply that your DH is a twat.

Tryharder · 27/12/2014 20:08

He screamed at you in front of his friends for no reason?

Does he often do things like this?

I think you need to talk!

Unless he's got a very good explanation for kicking off like that, I would be considering very seriously whether or not this man is for you...

SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 20:09

I'm not going now, I'm in my pyjamas and look like a mess. I don't even know what was so wrong, he says that "what i say to my mates on MY night is fuck all to do with you" and that i just intruded into the kitchen

His mates where telling me to pull up a chair and have a drink with them and he was saying "no, let the silly bitch go out" and yet its HIM that's been shown up??

I'm so fucking upset

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usefully · 27/12/2014 20:09

Get rid

MizK · 27/12/2014 20:10

Wash your face and go out...probably best not to go to the pub but is there a friend or relative you can go and see who you can talk to about this?

Your DH sounds completely insane - he has humiliated himself by screaming at you. You shouldn't be embarrassed because it sounds like you have been verbally attacked for no reason. Is he often like this? Honestly he sounds vicious and really nobody deserves to be treated this way. I hope you are OK but whatever you do, don't accept this bullshit.

mrscumberbatch · 27/12/2014 20:11

He's embarrassing himself.

You go be the independent, take no crap from anybody person that you would love to be and go out with your friends. You're just a bit embarrassed and hurt. Go dance it off.

Even DP's friends think he's acting like a tit... That's saying something.

MizK · 27/12/2014 20:11

Silly bitch?!

Seriously, go somewhere else for tonight. He's horrible.

SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 20:11

This was in front of his friends, who where trying to defuse the situation and he was having non of it saying stuff like "go on then, go out coz your fucking boring me"

If anything HE made it fucking awkward for his mates not me.

Starting to get angry now

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AnyFucker · 27/12/2014 20:12

his friends, if they are decent blokes, will be very about his ridiculous outburst

if no, I reckon they are all cocks and you would be better off without any of them in your life

GoldfishCrackers · 27/12/2014 20:12

He sounds absolutely vile. Every single thing you have described if his behaviour is awful: not liking you going out, the strippers 'joke', the screaming at you, calling you a bitch.
Is he always a total bastard?

tribpot · 27/12/2014 20:12

Yes, what a shocking breach. You went into your own kitchen in your own house. Whilst people were in there - whatever next?!

You need to stop taking what he said seriously and start thinking seriously about the way he said it. Of course you don't deserve it. Of course you hadn't shown him up. But if he felt drunk free enough to scream at you in front of other people, you need to be angry, not upset.

notapizzaeater · 27/12/2014 20:12

Go out and f@@k him - how date he embarrass you in front of his mates

mrscumberbatch · 27/12/2014 20:13

You should be angry.
Gird your loins and forget about him. Go have fun.

That's a bigger message to him than weeping in your room.

SoleSource · 27/12/2014 20:13

If that was me I would pack his stuff, throw it at him in front of his friends and throw the disrespectful count out. I'd call Police first.

mumonashoestring · 27/12/2014 20:13

I'm amazed he has friends, I can only assume he was providing the drinks. You need to have some serious words with him about his treatment of you.

Is he one of these dimwits who sees his mates who have wives and kids and gets a pants-widdling view of what life looks like when you think about other people?

scratchandsniff · 27/12/2014 20:14

He's a tosser!!

HamPortCourt · 27/12/2014 20:14

He is a total wankbadger. Am assuming you don't have DC?

Get rid before it gets harder to leave.

SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 20:15

All i did was say "i heard that" he's said that i barged in and said "what you saying" in an angry way, i did nothing of the sort.

Actually cant stand him right now. I'm starting to get really fucking mad

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NiceCupOfHerbalTea · 27/12/2014 20:15

i don't understand what you did wrong?

SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 20:16

We have children

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BuzzardBirdRoast · 27/12/2014 20:16

Please tell me you don't have DC's?

Patrickstarxx · 27/12/2014 20:17

Please tell me you have no dcs with this Thundercunt...

SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 20:17

Me neither NiceCup perhaps just any excuse to be an absolute fucking cunt to me eh?

No point doing anything now while he's pissed, i can feel the fucking anger rising in me. I feel like going down there and kicking them all out of MY house and really fucking showing him up

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