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Sat in bed crying my eyes out

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SatInBedCrying Sat 27-Dec-14 20:03:56

Don't even know what just happened, DH has a few friends round for drinks, ive been sat in living room out the way then decided fuck it I'm going to the pub, told dp my plans and he wasn't amused

Anyway as I'm getting my coat on i hear him say "if i knew she was going out i would have got the strippers in" he intended me to hear that, so in a lighthearted way looked into kitchen and said "i heard that" and laughed.

Now ive just spent the last 10 mins being screamed at by DH for "ruining his night" and "showing him up in front of his mates" he's told me he wants nothing more to do with me, i can just fuck off etc

Now ive fucked the pub off, cant go out looking like this, I'm sat in bed crying wondering what the fuck ive actually done to deserve the abuse ive just gotten. I feel humiliated in front of his friends and i haven't even done anything.

mrscumberbatch Sat 27-Dec-14 20:06:12

Go to the pub. Read him the riot act tomorrow. He was being a twat.

BumWad Sat 27-Dec-14 20:07:50

Your DH is a knob

tribpot Sat 27-Dec-14 20:08:36

I was already lost at the point where your DH didn't like your plan to go to the pub? What the hell difference did it make to him?

He must have severely embarrassed himself in front of his mates going ballistic at you over you effectively playing along with his not-even-slightly-hilarious joke. I'm assuming they must have heard this? Was it actually in front of them?

Why do you think you must have done something to deserve this abuse? The answer is quite simply that your DH is a twat.

Tryharder Sat 27-Dec-14 20:08:49

He screamed at you in front of his friends for no reason?

Does he often do things like this?

I think you need to talk!

Unless he's got a very good explanation for kicking off like that, I would be considering very seriously whether or not this man is for you...

SatInBedCrying Sat 27-Dec-14 20:09:26

I'm not going now, I'm in my pyjamas and look like a mess. I don't even know what was so wrong, he says that "what i say to my mates on MY night is fuck all to do with you" and that i just intruded into the kitchen

His mates where telling me to pull up a chair and have a drink with them and he was saying "no, let the silly bitch go out" and yet its HIM that's been shown up??

I'm so fucking upset

usefully Sat 27-Dec-14 20:09:56

Get rid

MizK Sat 27-Dec-14 20:10:06

Wash your face and go out...probably best not to go to the pub but is there a friend or relative you can go and see who you can talk to about this?

Your DH sounds completely insane - he has humiliated himself by screaming at you. You shouldn't be embarrassed because it sounds like you have been verbally attacked for no reason. Is he often like this? Honestly he sounds vicious and really nobody deserves to be treated this way. I hope you are OK but whatever you do, don't accept this bullshit.

mrscumberbatch Sat 27-Dec-14 20:11:20

He's embarrassing himself.

You go be the independent, take no crap from anybody person that you would love to be and go out with your friends. You're just a bit embarrassed and hurt. Go dance it off.

Even DP's friends think he's acting like a tit... That's saying something.

MizK Sat 27-Dec-14 20:11:35

Silly bitch?!

Seriously, go somewhere else for tonight. He's horrible.

SatInBedCrying Sat 27-Dec-14 20:11:43

This was in front of his friends, who where trying to defuse the situation and he was having non of it saying stuff like "go on then, go out coz your fucking boring me"

If anything HE made it fucking awkward for his mates not me.

Starting to get angry now

AnyFucker Sat 27-Dec-14 20:12:25

his friends, if they are decent blokes, will be very hmm about his ridiculous outburst

if no, I reckon they are all cocks and you would be better off without any of them in your life

GoldfishCrackers Sat 27-Dec-14 20:12:34

He sounds absolutely vile. Every single thing you have described if his behaviour is awful: not liking you going out, the strippers 'joke', the screaming at you, calling you a bitch.
Is he always a total bastard?

tribpot Sat 27-Dec-14 20:12:41

Yes, what a shocking breach. You went into your own kitchen in your own house. Whilst people were in there - whatever next?!

You need to stop taking what he said seriously and start thinking seriously about the way he said it. Of course you don't deserve it. Of course you hadn't shown him up. But if he felt drunk free enough to scream at you in front of other people, you need to be angry, not upset.

notapizzaeater Sat 27-Dec-14 20:12:55

Go out and f@@k him - how date he embarrass you in front of his mates

mrscumberbatch Sat 27-Dec-14 20:13:00

You should be angry.
Gird your loins and forget about him. Go have fun.

That's a bigger message to him than weeping in your room.

SoleSource Sat 27-Dec-14 20:13:34

If that was me I would pack his stuff, throw it at him in front of his friends and throw the disrespectful count out. I'd call Police first.

mumonashoestring Sat 27-Dec-14 20:13:38

I'm amazed he has friends, I can only assume he was providing the drinks. You need to have some serious words with him about his treatment of you.

Is he one of these dimwits who sees his mates who have wives and kids and gets a pants-widdling view of what life looks like when you think about other people?

scratchandsniff Sat 27-Dec-14 20:14:09

He's a tosser!!

HamPortCourt Sat 27-Dec-14 20:14:12

He is a total wankbadger. Am assuming you don't have DC?

Get rid before it gets harder to leave.

SatInBedCrying Sat 27-Dec-14 20:15:17

All i did was say "i heard that" he's said that i barged in and said "what you saying" in an angry way, i did nothing of the sort.

Actually cant stand him right now. I'm starting to get really fucking mad

NiceCupOfHerbalTea Sat 27-Dec-14 20:15:39

i don't understand what you did wrong?

SatInBedCrying Sat 27-Dec-14 20:16:11

We have children

BuzzardBirdRoast Sat 27-Dec-14 20:16:56

Please tell me you don't have DC's?

Patrickstarxx Sat 27-Dec-14 20:17:34

Please tell me you have no dcs with this Thundercunt...

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