Has done for years, it's been less often in the last 3/4 years but seems to have come back. I live abroad so only see her in the summer and at Christmas. Have 2 brothers and have never seen her act like this with them.
This current example is typical.
Christmas Day was great, as were the days leading up to it. We did a meal for us, my 3 children, my brother and his wife. Then in the evening she started calling for my brother, "I need you, where are you" on and on and when I pointed out he was outside getting something from the car and what did she need, all she kept saying was "No, I want to talk to him." Then he came in. "I need someone I can trust to turn the heating down and not up to 80°."
Laughable really. I had been hot all day in the kitchen and not been near the heating, I said that to her and she replied, "It's easier to blame you". For what? Someone turning the heating up ffs?
Since then she hasn't spoken to me. She talks to me through my children, or "Can someone who has the paper give it to me?" I heard her earlier telling my son that although we travelled a long time to get here, their cousins have a harder journey today so she has to take special care of them (wtf?). Frankly none of the children cares, the journeys are equally long and boring but this petty pointless point-scoring with the children is new.
In the last few years I've taken to ignoring her behaviour, brought her a cup of tea in the morning and acted as though nothing had happened because she had no way herself of getting out of it, iyswim.
I have also in the past left earlier when the ignoring me went on for days. I do want my children to see their cousins so I won't leave now. I am just baffled as to why she does this.
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Why does my mum do this?
JellyJellyBeans · 27/12/2014 16:38
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