I have posted elsewhere about finding out my husband had been having an affair for nearly a year with a woman I was friendly with.
He ended the affair when I found out and because I thought it was out of character for him and we had a good marriage I spend some time weighing up whether to end my marriage or not.
I eventually asked him to move out as I needed space to think, word got around what had happened and one of his friends mentioned that his first marriage had ended because he had cheated on her too. She found out from catching an STD off him. This was thirty years ago, I didn't know even though we have been married for 25 years as he lied to me about why his first marriage failed.
I realised then that both the cheating and lying were not out of character for him and I told him our marriage was over. It has subsequently come out that he has cheated on me before with at least half a dozen women.
He got back in touch with the OW the day I ended our marriage. He is moving into a flat we own when it becomes vacant in January but in the meantime he is staying with the OW at her house. It is tearing me apart thinking of them together. I don't want him back, I know without doubt that I have made the right decision but it hurts like hell that he is with the OW.
How do I deal with this? I can't stop thinking about them being together. Will I stop caring what he does? What sort of timeframe before it stops torturing me? Is there anything I can do to help myself not feel like this? Thank you.
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How do I stop thinking/hurting about husband being with OW?
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iwashappy · 27/12/2014 15:27
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