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please please comment ive done something big!! thank u for ur support

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Happyandsimple · 27/12/2014 14:43

Ok ladies im so shocked, you all have given me this strength i never had, i asked you guys for help and alot of you told me to tell someone in real life, i dissmised that because i was to scared to tell anyone. Scared i wouldnt be believed because im the loud one and hes the quiet one, but gues what my husband upset my mum with his strange behavour and ahe said " its probably just me because hes not like that" i used thatnoppitunity ,my heart was beating and i suddenly had the courage to tell her everything ( by everything i mean 30 percent of the abusive things hes done" but thats huge for me, i cried, she said she is very shocked , because im so confident, if it was at the start of the relationship i would hav chucked his clothes out the window for less than what he is doing tomme now. She said shes so sorry she didnt notice and i said its not your dfault, i told her im sorry mum please dont worry about me. And now she told me to look into selling the house no pressure but just test the waters, no harm in checking how much it wil be worth . I know i wont tell her the super bad stuff but i feel much better she said " im still alive , you shouldnt be hiding this from me now im still here ( shes very sick u see so i didnt wont to worry her" thank you, ladies your saving me one step and a time, i just feel like im getting somewere

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AnyFucker · 27/12/2014 14:45

Well done

baby steps, yeah ?

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cafesociety · 27/12/2014 14:55

We all need support and someone to confide in, to back us up, to encourage and make suggestions which you can take up or dismiss.

With this we can be strong and check out our progress. I hope you make the next step with confidence, whatever it may be. Getting a house valuation sounds a good idea. Then plan how you will change your life for the better. Your mum sounds great.

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Undecidedmare · 27/12/2014 14:57

I'm so glad to hear you are finding the strength and courage to make your life better. Hang on to this positive feeling. May your life continue to improve.