In march a casual fling ended because he wouldn't upgrade it to a relationship. We tried just being friends but I couldn't make the transition and in the end I deleted his number etc and went no contact as he started to mess with my emotions. This morning he text me wishing me a happy Christmas. It wasn't a round Robin text as it was personalised. It made me cry hearing from him as I'd kind of boxed up that time in my life as it was an unhealthy - but amazing - thing we had.
I am a nice person and feel that I should reply but then I wonder if he deserves it?
he started to mess with my emotions and lo! he's contacted you at Christmas, a time of heightened emotion, and made you cry. He's still trying to mess with your emotions sweetheart and because you are a nice person he knew this would raise a question in your head about whether or not to reply. Give yourself a Christmas gift of ignoring his message, deleting it and blocking his number. You are nice. You deserve someone who is nice and don't need someone like him trying to take up space in your head. Well done on going no contact from March. Don't let him use this time of year to break down your defences. 2015 will be so much better for you if he's not in the picture
Thanks ladies. It was a six month fling too which made me the happiest I'd ever felt, hence why I wanted it to become a relationship.
When he said he didn't want it to become one it broke me. He was adamant he wanted to remain friends which I tried, but to go from constant contact to the odd message when he wasn't 'busy' was so hard.
I don't think he intentionally meant to hurt me as he didn't realise how much I'd fallen for him.
I just hate being rude!
I'm actually in a much better place from going no contact (it was just a case of me ceasing contact, he hadn't actually proactively Contacted me) and I suppose you could say dating someone new.