I have been with my partner for nearly 18 months..... In April this year I found out that he had been on dating sites. Texting other woman. I found some conversations on his lap top even on his phone. I admit I was snooping. But I had a gut feeling. Up to this point I was so much in love with him. He gave me a future ..... When I asked him about it he said his laptop had been hacked etc etc. From time to time I found more messages on his phone. .. I have to say it all hit me like a freight train. His behaviour changed towards me . Very noticeable to me... but not to him. He still claims even as far as last night to be the same person towards me ... I will put my hands up and say I couldn't let thus drop. ....it took over my thoughts every thing .... every time he got his phone out ... Any way moving on from there ... For the past 4 months or so I have been talking about getting our relationship back on track.... He does not chat to me Show me any affection Sends me 1 text after I have sent him 1. Stays up in lounge till 11 o clock plus watching boxing or foot ball. But also chatting with friends. Does not make love to me .... Has not come shopping with me ... in fact we don't go out together any more. If he goes to see his sons he goes without me. He stays at his friends house over night. There is a parts of his life I am included in . I am crying all the time. My hair is falling out heart broken
(Whoops!) I'm sorry you're so upset but what you're describing is a relationship where there is no trust and no connection. What you want - a faithful, attentive, affectionate man who is working hard to restore your trust - and what you've got are so far apart that it's causing you horrible stress. It's the end of the road I'm afraid. End the relationship, get your confidence back and lose the stress. Good luck
I've been with my bf 18 months too and we are still in honeymoon phase where everything is exciting and lovely and fantastic.
Your relationship sounds the pits. I don't get it, if I found bf on dating sites after, what 8 months of being together, he'd have been gone, without question or probably even discussion. You barely even know him at this point, even 18 months is nothing really - as I say you can still be in honeymoon period! (Doesn't sound like you had much of one of those )
Please contact Womens Aid and sign up to do their Freedom Programme. You need to see that this is just completely unacceptable and you should not be putting up with it. Why are you putting up with it? You get absolutely nothing out of this. Only unhappiness and stress. Pack his bags up right now. Kick him out and find some peace and happiness on your own. This is NOT a relationship.
Meet.com - Lots of local meets such as salsa dancing, walking, cinemas etc etc etc. Good place to start making new friends. Online dating can be fun but you need to be in a confident place as it can be ruthless.
Dump him. He is not partnership material and spend some time getting to know and love yourself. Take up a new hobby - I took up running and joined a running club. Park run is full of lovely fit men!!
Yes - get rid of him! FFS why waste any more time?
Where can you go to make new friends
You can make new friends almost anywhere, but when you are wasting time trying to 'get back on track; with this loser, you are wasting time that you could spend on your own or meeting new people. Don't make that mistake!
So yesterday we went to his son's and his girl friends house ..... There whilst waiting the lovely food , my partner! Says this is the best gammon I have tasted. So I said you don't like mine then .....