I find it hard to love my mother :(

[Mrsgrumble]

For many years she has been domineering and critical. Will get sick on all special occasions in my life - hen, graduation. She insisted on bringing people she hardly sees to our wedding, will be difficult

I got a really good result and all she said was ' you're into that type of thing and yawned' and made my grad all about her back pain.

Then the 'sickness' happens frequently but she makes recoveries in time for nights out etc the very next day.

She will ask me to hoover while eight months pregnant.. It's all me me me.

The sad thing is I had another baby in past few weeks and I cannot drive. She hasn't come near me, never mind to help. Baby has been sick and in hospital, she still hasn't visited. Then today she rings. Says she is ill with flu and would I pick up bits in the supermarket for her (she lives 30 mins drive and I had section so not driving)

She regularly drives two hours away to city to shop but won't call to visit me and then cries because she is lonely. Before baby i visited twice a week.
She has hurt me so much.

[LadyBlaBlah]

Erm, have you come across the term narcissistic mothers at all?

[Aussiebean]

Congratulations on your baby.

Have you looked at the stately homes thread?

Will help you set up boundaries while you process what is happening and what you want to do about it.