I have name changed because I know my sister is on here! Long term poster.
I have a very high sex drive. DH's is normal. He would be happy with sex twice a week.
However I would prefer to have sex daily. We do have young children and I understand he may not always be in the mood and I am respectful of that but I'm starting to wonder if I do have a problem.
In the last 48 hours i have orgasmed 11 times. 6 with DH (we had sex last night and the night before. I came 3 times each time.)
And the rest by myself.
It's like I just can't concentrate until I get it done. I just came up stairs to do it because I couldn't wait till tonight.
I am faithful. Have no interest in other men or sex with other men. Only DH. And I try not to make issue of it if he is not in the mood, I just sort myself out but I'm starting to think its an abnormal situation?
Or is it not an issue as long as it works for us? Or should I be able to control it?!
Sea drive, like any other behaviour, is very individual. When it becomes problematic, again like any other behaviour, is when it starts to negatively impact on your ability to lead a normal, happy life. If you're unhappy, worried or feel your behaviour is at all obsessive or compulsive then talk to your doctor and get their opinion
Addictions are normally characterised by the negative impact on day to day life. I have (I think?) a high sex drive. I could spend all day in bed with someone/alone, but I don't need to call in sick to work because I'm busy masturbating, or leave social functions early, it doesn't distress me, etc.
If it is intruding onto your day to day life, causing you distress (or those close to you) or basically as cog says...see the Dr. I got a little bit paranoid about it once as a man made a flippant comment that was a bit hurtful about how much sex I wanted (he wanted it too!) but soon realised (thanks google) I was perfectly normal and it was healthy. I think as a woman we are expected to have lower sex drives, and worry more than any man would.
I don't think it negatively impacts our lives but I do wonder if it is 'normal' (whatever that means) to feel the need to masturbate during the day. It will always be once. Sometimes twice a day and that isn't including sex with DH. I think maybe I'm making it worse by doing this almost?
FWIW sounds "normal" to me. Who cares if it's "abnormal" anyway? Especially with sexual things, nobody knows what anyone else is doing truly! Masturbation is natural and healthy and you're not harming yourself or anyone else, by the sounds of it, by the frequency at which you masturbate or have sex.
You may get the impression it's not normal because no one else talks about masturbating several times a day. That's probably because they feel like you do! Worried they're weird or abnormal. People don't speak about these things openly enough but I think you have nothing to worry about. I hope not anyway, because if so I and many other women also need "help"!
I could quite happily have sex all the time OP, and yes - I've also worried that I was a little 'abnormal', but I think people are just different. Only thing that stopped me feeling like that was when I was taking ADs (sertraline) and then I was frustrated because I couldn't orgasm! No happy medium with me
Over the years a couple of girls have told me similar stories as you Op, you aren't alone by any stretch of the imagination. I knew one who would make herself cum every time she went for a pee. Yes, at work, in the pub, at home, out to dinner. Everywhere. She'd also do it a couple of times every time she had a shower, even if there was a man waiting for her in bed...
I just posted this on another thread about mismatched sex drives (there seems to be a few right now) but I would happily have sex every morning and night time with solo sessions in between if it's possible. Luckily my man is a lot younger and has a lot of energy compared to guys my age and loves it! We both have higher sex drives than average I would say but that certainly doesn't mean we're abnormal!
I would only say a high sex drive is problematic if is impacts negatively on your life, e.g you neglect other things for it, you cheat on your partner, it's causing you pain or discomfort. Otherwise it's fine and yes completely 'normal' (whatever that even means).