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Meplusyouequals4 Mon 22-Dec-14 07:48:53

Do any of you have good relationships with your in laws?

I see a lot of threads about bad relationships with your in laws, I have a amazing relationship with mine (but not my own family as much) I come from a huge family and my DH is the oldest of 3 boys. We live next door to we live next door to his mum, dad and 2 brothers who still live at home (ages 23 and 26).

I walk our dogs everyday with FIL and we have an amazing bond (don't get me wrong he gets on my nerves sometimes but it's silly things) he calls me the daughter he never had which is so nice and I call him pops.

MIL is just great we go get our hair and nails done every month together (we call it our girly time). My DH says we get along cos we are so alike (ocd when it comes to cleaning) we even bought each other the same things for Christmas last year which was hilarious.

DH 's brothers always joke that they will never get a partner that there mum likes the same way as me. But they know their mum is happy if they are happy.

We currently have his nana and grandad (MIL' s parents) staying with us over Christmas and they will go back for a week after new year then be back to stay for 10 weeks while the caravan site they live on is shut. This will be the 4th year this will be happening. I'm actually looking forward to this on cos when they come back I will be 36 weeks pregnant so they will be fantastic help.

I would love to hear what kind of relationships you all have. grin

Meplusyouequals4 Mon 22-Dec-14 07:51:09

Oh we have been together for 14 years married for 4 and have 1 DD aged 5 and one on the way.

GnomeDePlume Mon 22-Dec-14 07:57:29

I couldn't have the type of relationship you have with your PiL as I would find it too suffocating. I get on fine with my PiL but from a distance. They are DH's parents not mine.

Ledkr Mon 22-Dec-14 07:57:40

I get on with mine now but it took me being very assertive to get there and I'll never fully get over their behaviour when I had dd.
I am a mil now and I love my dils, I see them more as friends and having a 3yr old myself means that we can do things together with the kids and there's a big playroom full of toys when they bring the gc to visit.
I try to babysit if they ask cos my mum has bed. A bit hit and miss with helping me so I know how it feels.

Flingingmelon Mon 22-Dec-14 08:24:16

We get on fine, but we are at opposite ends of the country, we try very hard to consider each other's feelings and I had the much hoped for but not expected DGS. Not that they have any problem with girls, it was just lovely that they got both in the end.

However my relationship with my family is very very up and down.

TheCrimsonQueen Mon 22-Dec-14 08:27:00

My boys are 5 and 3 and I would love to have DIL like you in the future. Keeping fingers crossed.

Figfog Mon 22-Dec-14 08:30:07

I get on fine with mine- we're not great friends or anything outside the PIL/ DIL relationship but I like them and think they like me! They live fairly close so I see them quite regularly. They can be annoying but then so can my parents! They don't try to control us at all and we're happy for them to see my son a lot and they're lovely grandparents. They're quite hands off though- they would never ring me (or my husband) just for a chat or anything- it's just not how their family works.

Basically, they're just normal people who I get on with perfectly well! I could never live next door to them though shock

Meerka Mon 22-Dec-14 08:39:35

I have a great MIL. She is kind, reliable, salt of the earth type. We couldn't have got through two HG pregnancies without her, it would not have been possible to continue the second, certainly. She was there at the births. Now and then you do have to stand firm and not let her bulldoze you with her opinions but she will back off. Miss her if we don't see her every week and chat once or twice on the phone.

She has just had a new hip, hoping that it heals up and she can move around easily again, she just isn't built for lying in bed. Lovely woman <<heart>>

OttiliaVonBCup Mon 22-Dec-14 08:40:47

Each to their own.

This living in each other's pockets situation would drive me spare.
And I'd rather chew off my own hand then call something 'girly time'.

ISolemnlySwearIveBeenGoodSanta Mon 22-Dec-14 08:43:41

I get on ok with my PIL's, we're not best friends or anything. My MIL is a worrier. She freaks out several times a day for no reason. She's always making little jibes at our parenting choices, home etc etc I just ignore it for the majority. My FIL is a bit chauvinistic and wallowing in his own self importance, thinks he knows everything and is always right. We probably don't spend as much time with them as we should because of that. My DH can't stand having his opinion belittled anymore.

It is getting better though. Its taken 3 years but it's getting better. I think you're very lucky OP.

loveareadingthanks Mon 22-Dec-14 08:46:16

It sounds lovely, OP. It wouldn't be quite my cup of tea, but it's great to have a good relationship and it's nice to hear a happy Inlaw story for once

ZombieApocalypse Mon 22-Dec-14 08:58:32

My relationship with MIL is deteriorating unfortunately. She's always been somewhat headstrong but as she's got older, she's become more and more intolerant and rude. We had to spend a day with her recently and she was so obnoxious to DH it was embarrassing.

Meplusyouequals4 Mon 22-Dec-14 09:01:29

Wow! I'm am truly greatful for my in laws, they are my rock. my dad passed away just before I got pregnant with my DD1 and me and my mum have never really got on she favours my other sisters over me cos of the relationship I had with my dad. I moved out at 13 and lived with my grandparents till me and DH got our own place 9 years ago.

I cherish the relationship with my in laws so much my FIL even gave me away when I married DH.

I can't believe so many in laws have bad relationships. My DH and I don't see my family very often but they get on Ok when were together.

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