So tonight I am going to a party. It will be the first time I will be there with my exH at the same one too .
He broke my heart last Christmas by deciding that our life was not enough and I didn't handle it well, having a complete breakdown and acting out if character ( nothing major just texting him all the time - to be fair to me he never has DS over night so texting was my only release as DS no longer sleeps!).
He has a group of friends who will also be there (including one woman who he previously disliked and is now food 'friends' with) and these friends have been quite cruel in their treatment of me (only believing what he has told them and bad mouthing me etc.). I actually feel physically sick at going - not because of him but because of the four of his friends who have been so horrible - my own friends are all being super - making sure I am not going alone etc. but I am still really nervous.
Ex is a different man - I loved him and we were together a long time, I raised his dd - my dsd and we have our beautiful DS together. Life was pretty good but he 'wanted more'. I no longer want him back but do still love him on a way - despite His appalling treatment of me and his lack of support with DS. I am Being stupid to feel like this?
If anything comes out of their moths just reply "ooh look, someone written the word gullible on the ceiling" in a sarcastic tone while pointing up. And be grateful HE has shitbag friends while you have amazing ones.
Don't go! Unless it's a huge party where you'll have lots of friends and you can avoid him. Anything else and find something else! Go to the cinema or for food or for a little drink with a friend or something.
I went for an hour. Attila why would I be lowering myself to go to a close friends 50th? I held my head up, looked as good as I could and left without tears - am proud of myself and thankful for my amazing friends
You're surprised? A party is meant to be a fun opportunity to let your hair down and relax over a few drinks. 'Head held high' & 'no tears' .... that's how you feel after a difficult funeral or some other traumatic event, not a party. Who needs the stress?
Well done. You've beaten that demon so to speak. Now you know you can handle it. I think facing things head on removes their power to hurt you. It might not feel it now but this will be a landmark in your "recovery"