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Why is it so hard to let go?

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takingstock Fri 19-Dec-14 18:07:07

DD (17) has just moved in with XH. Which leaves me and DS together so our little family is now split right down the middle. I hate how this has all turned out and I'm so sad. But it's been over 2 years now and I have to move on. It was intolerable living with him and I know that I'm better without him. But how do you move on and build a new life when you still really grieve for the old one?

CogitOIOIO Fri 19-Dec-14 18:40:22

Sorry you're finding it difficult. Everyone copes with change differently and my personal philosophy, which may or may not help you, is that all you can ever do is make the best of the hand dealt. Time spent dwelling on the past or wishing things hadn't happened tends to be time wasted.

What's particularly making you sad?

takingstock Fri 19-Dec-14 19:01:07

It's that I don't have a family life anymore and I really miss that hustle and bustle. I think me and my DS are quite lonely really. its like an odd kind of empty nest. Maybe it's just the time of year.

punygod Fri 19-Dec-14 19:28:03

Know how you feel. I'm three years in to a 50/50 split scenario, and I still hate it. I want to be a proper, 100% mum.

Mine are 14 and 16.

It hurts, but I just couldn't stay with their dad.

Sorry OP. I feel your pain.

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