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Don't deserve him being nasty for being concerned over my daughter

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sammyjayneex Thu 18-Dec-14 11:55:49

So this morning my 2 year old daughter woke up with red blotches on her face. I was worried and suggested to him we get her seen. He didn't start work till 1 so didn't see it as a problem for him to take me. (He drives I don't) he started laying into me calling me a * saying I'm paranoid and he won't take me I will just have to go by myself. He saying I'm mental because she's probably just got an allergy. Isn't it supposed to be the right thing getting your child checked out of your concerned. He's making me feel like I've dont something wrong.

So this morning my 2 year old daughter woke up with red blotches on her face. I was worried and suggested to him we get her seen. He didn't start work till 1 so didn't see it as a problem for him to take me. (He drives I don't) he started laying into me calling me a * saying I'm paranoid and he won't take me I will just have to go by myself. He saying I'm mental because she's probably just got an allergy. Isn't it supposed to be the right thing getting your child checked out of your concerned. He's making me feel like I've dont something wrong.

She's got a doctors appointment but he's made me feel like a paranoid idiot and I feel like now for him shouting at me :-(

AskMeAnother Thu 18-Dec-14 11:59:24

Who is he? Your husband? The child's father? If not, why are you with him. He shouldn't be shouting at you for wanting to look after your child. Your first duty is to her, she needs you if she is to survive.

Iggly Thu 18-Dec-14 12:03:41

Well he can fuck off. I would tell him so.

You don't need him to confirm or validate your concerns because yes you did the right thing. He isn't a medical professional.

CogitOIOIO Thu 18-Dec-14 13:34:19

Who on earth is this person? He sounds thoroughly abusive. Of course you're doing the right thing getting your child to a doctor and the next right thing to do is to get this miserable, insulting bully out of your home.

sammyjayneex Thu 18-Dec-14 13:35:54

Sorry I didn't specify
He is my husband. My daughters father

VitalStollenFix Thu 18-Dec-14 13:37:28

of course you are going to be concerned if your child has woken up with a rash.

He's a dick.

He can't be arsed to take his child to a doctor?

CogitOIOIO Thu 18-Dec-14 13:43:21

From your description, he sounds neither like a husband nor a father. He is a bully, his behaviour is totally abusive and he is showing zero concern for his own child. Does he act like this often?

Quitelikely Thu 18-Dec-14 13:48:29

Doesn't sound good. Are there other issues between you?

You don't have to tolerate being talked to like that.

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