I've been with my partner for over 3 years, we have a 2 year old daughter together.
It was a rebound relationship after my husband and I split (no kids, we're still married). We'd known each other for years and I fell pregnant not long after we started seeing each other.
Fast forward 3 years and after the excitement of our whirlwind romance, unexpected pregnancy and subsequent amazing child, the wheels are starting to fall off.
I'm starting to feel resentment and bitterness towards him and it's meaning I'm not a very nice person to him . Mainly belittling and showing apathy towards him. he doesn't deserve it. He's a wonderful dad and partner, everything he does is for us. I find myself nitpicking everything he does and taking him for granted. It's not a partnership or really a relationship.
Due to his working pattern we don't see much of each other and I don't know if that's making things worse as we rarely have the chance to reconnect or if it's a blessing.
My problem has always been that I look to what other people have and I benchmark my life against that. I realise this will always set me up to fail and be unhappy.
I'm determined that my child will not come from a broken home, I realise in many cases that this is the best option but I feel that the problem lies with me in this case and that I'd be bailing without even trying. This may seem a strange analogy but I think that if people can get arranged marriages to work then surely I can work at this and we can all be happy?
Any advice most welcome.
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can i make this work?
MsInformed · 17/12/2014 10:07
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