OK so DP has got his second Xmas party this eve, the big one was last week (night away, 5am bed and v hungover) to be fair he kept in touch with me all night and gave me no concerns to worry about what he was up to / whether he was OK.
I am 28wks pregnant with DC2, both I and DS1 are sick at the moment with a bad cold, nothing major, we will live but generally finding it a bit tough to get up and to work in the morning.
Tonight is DPs team party. It's a meal and drinks I think with his small team of 8 colleagues. Tomorrow I have to get up at 7am to go to Edinburgh for a work meeting and for my own Xmas party, which is a meal/drinks. I will be leaving at 9pm to get the last train home (I didn't want to stay over as not sleeping well now).
I asked DP this morning if he would be OK to get the last train home (meaning leaving the party at 11ish) he said he thought it would probably be an early finish anyway but wasn't sure. I could tell he was annoyed I had asked.
So I have since (via email) pointed out the reason I ask is when he comes back late it always wakes me up / I often struggle to sleep when he is not here as I suppose I anticipate being woken. I am sleeping badly anyway now due to baby kicking, getting up for a wee etc and i find when I am woken i find it incredibly hard to get back off to sleep. I tried to explain this (nicely) by saying he has had one 'big party' already where he got to drink as much as he wanted / stay up all night and that I thought it was reasonable to ask he come home earlier tonight so that I can sleep because being pregnant is hard sometimes.
Is this is a reasonable request or am I being a selfish cow? I should add in general he is good at getting up to look after DS1 and is generally quite considerate but I still feel as if my life has many many more restraints on it that his does and sometimes feel this is unfair.
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AIBU to ask DP to come home early (ish) from Xmas party
mammammio · 16/12/2014 11:25
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