Ok my husband was recently telling me with much amusement about an email his best friend sent him about an affair he had. His wife knew and was apparently ok with it, and the email was very braggy and quite graphic in places. However, the tone of some parts have really pissed me off, and i want some other views. I feel that he almost seems to be encouraging my husband to give it a go, and i feel like DH is being disloyal by not challenging some of these views. We have argued a few times over this, and his lack of response. He says it would not influence him, and he disapproves of his affair but i still feel he should say something to him.
Here are a few quotes from the email: 'compatible people are out there everywhere... You could pick up something new with anyone... It is not necessary to settle for really stupid stuff in a relationship cos u could just move on... Having closeness (and sex) with someone who isnt your wife can be perfectly fine if handled right... I suspect you're a lot like me, and don't get praise in your day to day life... Mostly people bitching to me .... What i didn't realise is how much meaning having just one extra person tell you they think you're wonderful, how much that means'.
The general tone of the email is one about how fab it was, comparing woman to his wife (who's just had a baby) etc by referencing her 'droopy boobs' etc and just so disrespectful. He did have an emotional affair about a year before this, but they didn't have sex cos the other woman felt to guilty - he was very keen to do so! In the email he thanks DH for his support re the previous woman (DH says he didn't really support him as such, but did a bit cos his friend was sad). I know my judgement is partially flawed cos he comes across as such a jerk in the email, i used to like him. Am i being crazy over this? I genuinely feel very upset and betrayed, tho can't exactly explain why, and i feel he owes DH/ me an apology as feels like he is trying to suggest an affair wud be good for DH too. They rarely see each other but r due to meet up next week, and it brought it all to a head again this weekend. I wud never say they cant be friends etc, but deep down i wish they wouldn't. Do i need to get a grip, and if so, how?
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Email from DHs friend
MillyMollyMandy78 · 15/12/2014 18:33
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