I'm feeling pretty low this eve. Been with DH for over 20 years, and generally things are good, 3 kids, both of us working etc. But. He can't ever say anything nice to me, and I just feel so unvalued. I said I was no good at some childhood craft (jokingly) this evening, and he said I made him sad cos I never see anything good in myself. Actually, I do, but it would be so nice to be complimented now and again by him. I make sure to praise him lots - his parents don't ever, and I get that it doesn't come naturally to him, but if I say to him that I would like him to say what he values about me now and again, that I look nice, that I am a good mum, etc he just becomes very defensive, says it's not down to him, I should be self-directed and know how amazing I am etc, and still won't say anything nice, to the point where I am crying. He is now ignoring me. Surely it's not unreasonable to hope to be told nice things now and again, by the one who is supposed to love me the most? Even if it's just every couple of months?
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Is a compliment too much to ask?
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SantaBanta · 13/12/2014 22:01
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