its Saturday night 8pm and i have just had an argument with my DH! He has just found out that I have quietly given our 24 year old son £30 so that he can go out for a beer to the local pub with friends! Quietly because he would have disapproved and made it difficult! He is my son first born from first marriage, unfortunately he has been pretty much unemployed for the last 18months. He more or less spends 20 hours a day in his room barely talks to us and tells me he feels depressed! I naturally worry about him and try to help where I can and when asked on the rare occasions! He tells me he applies every day for work and has tried several temp jobs. He is an amazing cook but not qualified and a recent kitchen spell ended when he was diagnosed with sciatica! My husband says he is lazy and all the while I am giving money he doesn't need to find a job! Dan didn't ask me tonight for money I offered because I couldn't bear to see him in alone again for another weekend!
Am I really doing more harm than good? I probably give him some money may be twice a month never any more than £30! Sometimes I don't offer at all and he very rarely asks me - he always looks embarrassed when he takes it!
Thank you
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adult son at home no job no money no prospects - making me ill
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