I have a thread about something else, a separate issue so wanted to start a fresh one as I really need support just now and I don't want the two issues being muddled together.
Two nights ago my 8yo Dd2 broke the news to me that a 15 year old boy had raped her on four or five occasions, on weekends when in her fathers care (I work weekends)
The last 36 hours has been a nightmare of phone calls, CID, police, social services, child protection and so many tears.
It came out because I'd made the decision to tell both my DD's why I didn't speak to my father. This was due to abuse I suffered at 7yo by a 15yo cousin and my family disbelieving me. Because I opened up about that, my dd2 felt safe to tell me what had been happening to her.
My world has fallen apart. Without going into details, I've been through hell and back since I was a child but nothing comes close to what it does to you, hearing practically your own story coming from your babies mouth. It's destroyed me. My worst nightmare come true.
My DD2 has been amazing. Absolutely amazing. She has done her best to tell all professionals involved what happened to her. Even when she has been so scared she can't speak and so wrote it down. I'm in awe of her strength and resilience. She is my little heroine.
There is another little girl that this lad is regularly around and she is being spoken to today. They strongly suspect he will have been doing things to her.
Thankfully, I've been through this myself and I know how to handle it with my DD2. She knows it's not her fault. She knows she didn't do anything to bring it on. She knows she is believed, is safe and doesn't have to see him again. I've also started looking into specialist counselling for her and am doing everything in my power to make sure the damage done from this is a limited as possible.
Inside though, I just feel this has finally broken me. I comforted myself that although my own abuse was horrendous and how I was treated afterward was horrendous, that it would never ever happen to my children. The fact that it has, has just killed something in me. I need this thread to fall apart in, so I can stay strong for her in RL.
The whole situation is double bladed in that it's almost parallel to what happened to me and is bringing back terrible memories and things I fought hard to block out. I'm so glad I can do the right things for her. And so bitter that my own father couldn't do it for me. My head is one spinning mess.
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Celestria · 10/12/2014 10:53
We're here for you. 
You are strong. You are a survivor. You have brought your daughter up well. This is not your fault and the abuse your daughter has experienced is not due to the abuse you went through.
So glad she was able to tell you about this and able to stop it from happening again.
Both you and your DD are my heroes tonight. You're a wonderful mum who has created an environment where your DD has felt safe and supported enough to tell you what's been happening and to put a stop to it. Your DD's bravery means that she and probably another girl will not have to endure any more abuse. I'm so sorry you've both having to go through this but you couldn't have responded in a more caring and constructive way. for both of you.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you & your DD. I'm sure there are many more MNers who will give you much better advice & help than I can, having been through similar things themselves.
I can hand-hold with the best of them though, and - FWIW - you sound like a brilliant mum, which is everything your little girl needs just now.
Plenty of doting mums work weekends to provide for their kids op - none of them expect something as horrific as this to happen when they do. Have you organised professional support for yourself as well as your daughter? I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this
I have reported this to HQ - just because you've posted in your normal name, and you have tons of threads, and you might be identifiable.
and {{hugs}} for what you are going through.
I am so sorry this has happened to your daughter and to you. I hope you can feel strengthened by the support of MNers and that all the relevant agencies are able to fulfil their roles effectively. I'm sorry we can't take it away. I'm glad you are there for your daughter and hope there are people in real life who are there for you.
Oh love I have no words of wisdom but could not read and run. to you and your DD.
The only thing I can offer is that you are so right when you say your own experience will be of so much value and support to your DD because you've been there. I say this because my DD1 and I share a defining childhood issue too (unrelated to yours) and tho it has given me much sadness to see her tread a similar path, it has helped me key into her feelings and experiences better than I might have been able to. And by working with her on it, it has alleviated some of the pain of my own, because I could be there for her as no one else could
I'm so sorry to read your heartbreaking post and wish you all the love and strength in the world to go through this.
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Oh sweetheart 
Fall apart as much as you need to - we're here
do you. You are an amazing mother. She is lucky to have you.
I wouldn't think of it as finding peace because of what happened to your DD. It's more like you be found a way (due to awful circumstances) to help someone -your DD - based on your own experience. Which has brought something better from something awful IYWIM.
Thanks for the support
She is currently with the child protection officer out at her fathers, showing them where it took place. I couldn't go with her once again. My eldest dd is due home from her interview soon.
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