Split from the bloke I was dating about 4 weeks ago... we had been seeing each other for 5 months. It was sort of a mutual end I guess.. initiated by him saying he wasn't sure if he loved me after all (after declaring love quite early on in the relationship). In the end I was the one who said well if that's how you feel then maybe we should end it now, mainly because he was annoying me with all his indecisiveness. Even then he seemed unsure, didn't want to take his stuff as it 'gave him an excuse to see me again..'
After 2 weeks of silence I texted him and we exchanged a few messages, I said he should come over to pick up his stuff and to have a catch up, after all we were supposed to still be friends. He agreed, said he would let me know which day that week was good for him.
That was last week. Since then, nothing. But he's still on FB, liking and commenting on things I post. God, I sound like a teenager! And the truth is I really really miss him. Until he suddenly had a wobble things were really good.
That's why I haven't done it... I could text and say 'oi I thought you were coming round?' and I expect he would probably reply... but then I'd feel like I'd caved in. Of course what I really want to say is 'I miss you, you twat, have you changed your mind yet?' But that would obviously NOT be the best thing to do...
You are probably right. I texted mine earlier and I probably should not have but I just am not good at leaving things alone. I need answers one way or the other even if they are ones I don't want to hear
Im with Infinitiy here OP. You have given him an "opening" in case he was regretting things and he has clearly shown you he isn't interested. You don't need to spell anything out for him. He was dithering because he already wanted out. Sorry Dump his things in the bin.
I think you're all right. What a fucker. minklundy I totally get why you texted, but in my experience often you don't get answers anyway, I went through that with my exH. Which is why I'm trying to avoid putting myself through that this time (though I clearly failed miserably by texting in the first place!)
Well I did v well for a bit. Nc. Then texted because he had been ill. He was initially quite keen to stay in touch because he missed me (we split because of other stuff in his life that he wasn't coping with and he felt he was not spending enough time with me as a result) but since then on and off and I get too anxious in between hearing from him.
i would like to have it out and find out how he feels but he cannot talk about it just now because his head is messed up.
I should just drop it but we had a good thing if everything else hadn't happened. And I confess, I am a fixer. I always think things can be mended.
when are you going to learn that his head isnt "messed up" when are you going to learn that they arent interested? If i really liked someone then they would make my "head" feel better. STOP fooling yourselves.