I want to discuss with my mum the possibility of her getting a poa but not sure how to broach it.
Bit of background ( will try to be as brief as possible)
She is 73 with Parkinson's, no mental impairment yet. Step dad is 76 and getting very forgetful. In her will her house and everything else goes to me and my brother.
Brother is a narc and I am nc with him ( although not SIL and DC's). He sees my mum occasionally and phones but doesn't bother much. DM knows he is unpleasant and doesn't blame me for being nc, although I know it upsets her and although sehe tells me she doesn't like who he has become she tends to brush off his behavious by saying that's just how he is.
Brother has said to me in the past that if DM dies before step dad we need to find a way to get him out of the house so we can sell it and get the money ( I haven't told DM this).
My concern is that if DM needed nursing care and didn't live in her house my brother would try and get step dad out, he would also begrudge any money going towards her care as it would eat into his inheritance. He doesn't need the money by the way, he is just greedy.
As a narc he will not be told what he can and can't do and there would be volcanic eruptions if I tried to protect my mums assets and as he judges everyone by hs standards he would claim I was trying to get all the money for myself - I'm not, I don't need it either. He would be likely to oppose anything I said out of spite as well.
I don't know the details of poa's but I want to be able to make sure that I can make decisions to protect my mum and step dad if she can't make her own choices at any point
I don't want to upset my mum, we have a close relationship but I am worried that at some point I will need to manage her affairs for her and by then it will be too late to get a poa and I will have to fight my brother all the way.
Advice please on how to tackle it with my mum or any other suggestions?
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Hoppinggreen · 09/12/2014 13:39
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