Ok so this is the first time I have posted on here and I'm doing it at 4.15am as I just can't sleep, I don't know all the abbreviations yet so you will have to bare with me!
On Friday night my husband myself and some of his work related friends went for a few christmas drinks. I came home early as I wasn't feeling 100%. My husband stayed out and all was well. At 2.30am he phoned me to let him in as he had lost his jacket and keys (not unusual when he is a bit drunk) I let him in and it was clear that he had been in some kind of fight. He immediately told me the whole story of how he had walked one of the women home as he didn't want her walking home alone and that he had given her a hug and a kiss on the cheek outside her house and her fiancé had come flying out and punched him in the face for no reason.
I had no reason to doubt my husband as he is always happy to walk someone home if they are alone and is a very tactile person who always greets and says goodbye to everyone, men or women, with a kiss and a hug (that'll be the Italian part!). I just assumed that the fiancé had seen the hugging and got the wrong idea. I trust my husband 100% as (other than once when we first got together) he has never given me reason not to!
About 10 mins later the fiancé sent me a message saying that he had caught them kissing and had punched my husband. (I ignored it as I figured that it may be easier to explain that it was all a big misunderstanding in the morning when he had calmed down)
This morning however I sent a message on FB to the woman in question to check she was ok and to let her know that I knew what had happened and not to worry as my husband had explained everything. The message I got back was from the fiancé saying that he had definatly seen them kissing, in his words "her arms round his neck, his hands on her arse, tongues down each other's throats" he said he saw them from the upstairs window and rushed downstairs, he said he wanted to check that he hadn't made a mistake so opened the door and stood and watched them for a few seconds. He said they were so ingrossed in each other that they didn't even notice him coming out of the house until his fist contacted my husbands ear. He got hit a couple of times and left without hitting back (I don't understand why as he is a very good kick boxer and could have defended himself). He also said the missing coat had been on the woman in question and if he wanted it back it was outside his house covered in piss...nice!
After seeing that message I felt sick, I have always trusted my husband 100% and we have a fantastic relationship (tmi alert-not a huge amount of sex due to reacurring yeast infection but a couple times a month!) We never argue and after 6 years together and a 2 year old daughter are just generally super happy!
I decided to do a bit of digging and check his phone etc and found that there were no messages on his phone from this woman at all...that might seem like a good thing but they are friends and I know they have sent text messages before as I have seen them! So he has deleted the whole thread of messages from her. Why would you do that if you have nothing to hide?? He never deletes anything and still has all the messages head ever sent in the 2 years he has had the phone!!
I am worried now. I have spoken to a couple of friends about it and they have both said that my husband adores me and would never cheat on me, and that they all want to meet men as lovely as him.
I am so torn, I want to trust him as I always have and as far as I know he has never broken that trust and I feel SOOO guilty that I am doubting him but I just can't shake this really heavy sick feeling in my stomach. I need help xx
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