..Or am I sounding mean and selfish?
After a shitty stupid time with ex I gave been single (happily) for Neath a year . Started OND and met bloke on POF.
Been seeing each other since Aug. He's about to be divorced. Long marriage . Grown up kids. Seperated over a year. All fairly amicable.
I like him. I'm find of him. But he's not 'the one' and that's what I like . I don't want 'the one'. I don't want the feeling /pain of falling in love and all that. I can't be doing with feeling that vulnerable and exposed.
So I'm with a man who is kind, loyal, generous, interesting, loves doing lots of diverse things, fairly compatible in bed... He likes me. But recently he's started telling me he's got 'massive' feelings for me. (Mostly when he's had a pint or two). And I freeze... I've flattened and diverted these texts/conversations and I feel mean. I would be pretty hacked off if my previous feelings and emotions were ignored.
Last night he (over the phone) told me he loved me. And I can't say it back. To him or anyone. So he's fed up now as I'm not reciprocating.
Am I being a cow? He knows my history (it's not big and not clever) and I'm sure I says right at the start that I wasn't looking for a big love affair. What do I do now? I'd like to just pootle along merrily like we were ...
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Is it ok to say "I don't want to fall in love with you/anyone" ?
redundantandbitter · 05/12/2014 11:14
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