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go for it - just ask if he wants to go for a coffee/drink sometime, seeing as its Christmas and the season of good cheer (good reason to meet rather than at a random time of year)

good luck

Yes, be brave! If I were going to coax myself to be brave enough to ask someone out, I would invite him for a specific time and have some sort of excuse for asking. For instance I would invent an errand near his workplace which involves waiting around for a few hours on a certain day and ask if he has time for lunch/coffee/drink. Then I would see how he responded (did he jump at the chance, just say he was busy, or say he was busy but falll over himself with regret and try to find another time).

I guess I would be too shy to make it clear that it was me asking him on a date; I would give myself the chance to save face if he turned me down.

He sounds really nce by the way. I really think you should go for it.

Cant you add him on Facebook.
Or email,
hi,
I forgot to get your number here is mine 012345677.
We should go for drinks some time.

Gablik

FWIW its sounds he is interested.

Of course you should. Go for it.

Go for it, the ladies suggestions are good.

A mans view off me , just go for it if he doesn't want to see you then no harm done and you can move on, life is too short to have regrets about whether we should have done things or not.
I have been in a similar situation and always find that instincts are normally correct and it's been fine, keep us posted ��

Would go for it - but as other say not frame it asa a date - just doing something together/spending time together.

Could he be gay?

So hoping for a Christmas love story here, good luck.

Go for it!!

Go for it! If he is shy he may just need a bit of a nudge!!

Go for it. There is no way on earth that asking for something that you want - to see him - makes you a tit. Even if he says no. On the contrary, asking means you are a woman who knows her mind, and if he says no, that's down to him, and is no reflection on you. You'll feel a lot more strong and confident for having asked, than you do right now wondering "what if...?"

He will say yes, btw.

No one elses gay-dar beeping?

I was the only woman who got dhs attention despite the constant chasing. keep peseveering even if first time is a no ;)

Somethingtodo, OP did say she felt a lot of chemistry and 'focus' between them, so prob not gay.

Do it. Contact him by any means you can. Personally, I'd prefer a phone call - even if work No. to an email, but that's down to you. Either he says "yes" so you're home and dry or he says "no" and you can stop flogging a dead horse and move on. Either way, you win something.

BTW, please let us all know the outcome.

Go for it, he's probably sat thinking the same about you but is too shy to ask

never had a girlfriend at 37? despite obvs having a busy long established social life and being v charming -- any number of women would have moved in on this lovely man no matter how shy or slight or bald by now dont you think?....

"his pupils were dilated to the maximum" = poppers??? ;)

Hi OP

Worried that you might make a tit of myself ?

I think that if you ask somebody out seriously and honestly and reasonably then there is never any shame in that. Even if you are turned down, even if you have misread something, there's no shame in asking. You'll make his day at least! If he is rude for whatever reason then it's him being a tit!

I don't see how you can make a tit of yourself, not from my point of view anyway.

Good luck!

For goodness sake don't approach him because the way you've described him, there are many, many women who would want him, and you don't want to get crushed in the stampede.

Or, get in there quick before the others have a chance. Good luck!