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You;ll never find anybody better than me. Why do people say this?

(32 Posts)
SoleSource Tue 02-Dec-14 20:58:09

My 'ex' or sex buddy whatever he fucking was said this to me, made me feel worthless.

FamiliesShareGerms Tue 02-Dec-14 20:59:09

Because they're controlling knobs?

Rinkydinkypink Tue 02-Dec-14 21:01:02

To gain power and control over you by making you feel worthless!

They are the ones who are worthless, not you. I suspect you are amazing smile

FolkGirl Tue 02-Dec-14 21:02:40

Because they want to hurt you? Because you hurt them by ending it?

They certainly aren't saying it because it's true. The very fact they're saying it means it's not true.

SoleSource Tue 02-Dec-14 21:02:57

Yeah smile KNOBHEAD, I pity his current slave.

MiniTheMinx Tue 02-Dec-14 21:08:59

This They certainly aren't saying it because it's true. The very fact they're saying it means it's not true

You would never be thinking this so they have to plant the idea.

flatbellyfella Tue 02-Dec-14 21:15:37

I would say that they were very insecure people, to think & speak that way. Trying to make you feel like the insecure one .

Tobyjugg Tue 02-Dec-14 21:18:47

Well he's hardly likely to say "I'm a worthless piece of shit. You'll be able to find better than me under any mossy log" is he.

sillymillyb Tue 02-Dec-14 21:21:03

Jesus, what a cunt! I'm so sorry, I know it's hard to see it but it really is a reflection on him and not you. NO nice person would say that, they just wouldn't, and you def deserve a nice person so he's blatantly wrong.

Wine? smile

Lacoba66 Tue 02-Dec-14 21:30:10

Potentially a controlling shite bag who seriously believes this - in which case is a tosser... Or worse case scenario, he believes it, but is a manipulative shit and is very much aware of what he is saying- either way, best get rid off. Is he soooo much superior than everyone else?

ThirdPoliceman Tue 02-Dec-14 21:31:43

Because they are delusional!

operaha Wed 03-Dec-14 09:05:49

Definitely because theyre scared of losing you!
BOTH my exes have said this to me - serious counselling is ongoing and made me realise I am worth more than that.
My last ex said "Youre no supermodel but at least you have me". I am a fucking supermodel compared to that piece of shit

JohnFarleysRuskin Wed 03-Dec-14 09:09:47

Don't feel worthless. It's just a stupid thing that stupid people say.

FunkyBoldRibena Wed 03-Dec-14 09:14:39

My 'ex' or sex buddy whatever he fucking was said this to me, made me feel worthless.

It worked then!

How about realising that the reason they say it is to make you feel worthless, as that's the only way they get to stay in any sort of relationship.

Anyone who really is 'the best', doesn't need to say it as they don't think it - because they just 'are'. And that goes with a huge dose of self-reflection and awareness that this would be a horrible thing to say to anyone.

CogitOIOIO Wed 03-Dec-14 09:26:17

Did you dump him right before he said this? If so, it's pretty normal for someone to express 'your loss' type sentiments. If he said it when he dumped you of if he just said it out of nowhere the word you're looking for is 'conceit'. Conceited people are everywhere....

Alchemist Wed 03-Dec-14 09:37:12

During a holiday just before H left me for his new friend, we took the DC out for dinner. Usual blah blah blah arguing and then he stood up, with arms outstretched and screamed "You'll never find anyone better than me!" and stormed out.

The whole restaurant was silent and then a lone voice piped up "What a dick" and started laughing and clapping. Others joined in smile. Poor DC were given a free giant knickerbocker glory and me a glass of wine.

Horrible at the time but I look back and smirk. Happily DC mention the icecream more than the row.

Alchemist Wed 03-Dec-14 09:39:23

PS HE is the worthless one. thanks

NewEraNewMindset Wed 03-Dec-14 09:43:55

Fuck, I said similar to my ex blush

In my defence he had knobbed me about for ages and couldn't decide what he wanted. So I said to him that when he is old and looks back on his life he will always regret letting me go.

As it turned out I'm now very happy with DP and DS and he periodically messages me to tell me he misses me. So I assume I could end up being correct. He did me a huge favour though.

SoleSource Wed 03-Dec-14 12:24:29

I am still very confused about that man since he dumped me in 2008. He was seeing a French woman behind my back all along and he was separated from his wife. I was being used, he said he wanted me to make up my mind about us but he had someone already and i knew he wasn't serious when he said it. Very odd.mixed messages but i kept my dignity and pride. He is still with this French woman and i think they have children now. The using twat cunt face.

Hatespiders Wed 03-Dec-14 12:34:35

Because they're so in love with themselves that they think they're God's gift to women. Ghastly type of arrogant twat. Reminds me of that funny song:-

"Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
When you're perfect in every way.
Each time I look in the mirror
I get better looking each day.." etc.

GoatsDoRoam Wed 03-Dec-14 12:36:40

What is there to be confused about? You have said it yourself: he is a twat.

Twats say and do twatty things out of their disregard for others.

CogitOIOIO Wed 03-Dec-14 12:42:38

If he dumped you in 2008 why are you still angry?

FunkyBoldRibena Wed 03-Dec-14 13:01:55

I am still very confused about that man since he dumped me in 2008

Get over it! Bloody hell that was years ago.

SoleSource Wed 03-Dec-14 13:02:30

I don't know, I feel used and i was afraid of him.

Kewcumber Wed 03-Dec-14 13:05:49

2008 shock

Do you think he is still mulling it over? I doubt it.

Time to move on!

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