I know, I know... I'm not 15 really... I don't even know if I want him to. I'm currently resolutely single. But I am curious as to what you make of this, if anything. Largely just because I'm trying to understand the signs and signals of this sort of thing and need to know if there are any here. Or not.
I'm aware it isn't really very much of anything written down, and that much of this sort of thing is in the subtle nuances of non verbal communication/body language/expression that I can't convey here, but here goes...
I started a job earlier in the year and share an office with a colleague. There is a man who comes into our workplace twice weekly for a couple of hours at a time to work with clients. He's been coming in for a while, but our paths have only crossed since August.
He always pops into our office for a chat. I don't think he flirts with me, but he and I have definitely had chats that have recently become more personal (not really intimate, and certainly not 'inappropriate', although we have shared aspects of our personal lives. Eg. I know he's single and has a child), whereas his chats with my colleague don't ever leave the professional realm (we work in a 'caring profession' so a lot of the professional chat is quite 'emotional' and emotive anyway). When I am not in the office they chat, but she always tells me that he has asked after me. When she's not in we chat, but he doesn't ever ask after her.
About a month ago, he brought in a couple of books to lend me that he thought I'd be interested in based on a chat we'd had the week before. I didn't know he was going to do this. And last week, he gave me a daft little 'gift'. No great effort was involved, it was more of a 'token' than anything. But still, he did it. There was a small amount of good natured teasing, too, but that was it. My colleague teases me with mock indignation that he has 'forgotten' her...
So that's it really. What do you make of it? Just friendly, or could he be interested? (Be honest, but kind - feeling very fragile and uncertain of this sort of thing at the moment! Thanks)
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Do you think he likes me..?
DoesThisMeanAnything · 02/12/2014 20:29
He likes you 
so what happens next? It all sounds so normal and nice and well normal...do you like him?
Humble No, he doesn't do it with everyone. I don't want to say too much, but, due to the nature of his work, he only really comes into contact with a few of us at work. All women. And he doesn't do it with them. My colleague and I are the only ones he chats to in our place. He goes round to other places in a similar capacity. I've obviously got no idea if he's like it with anyone else. But he's not crass, or flirty, or 'blokey'.
MMcanny No, he's not coming on our work night out. I could give him a Christmas card, I suppose, but I wouldn't put my number in it! The very thought! I kind of think I'd rather it came from him. Which is odd, because normally I wouldn't be bothered about that. 
Toby That sounds rather certain.
He sounds like a nice decent kind man who is probably testing the water, he wants you to like him. That's nice and normal. I am inclined to think that decent men do not act all crass and blokey.
I'm like you I would wait for him to ask or give me his number but you can nudge him in the right direction 
No, perhaps, MadeMan. There are a few other men in my workplace, just not who he comes into contact with. I agree, I wouldn't know what he's like around other men.
It's not the chatting I was wondering about really. I talk to pretty much everyone. It was the other stuff. I wasn't sure if it indicated a level of interest above friendly chat at work.
Blimey, Mini. That feels like a terribly tall order! I'll try...
I suppose, ideally, it would be nice to go out for something over the Christmas holidays.
Oh yeah, that's a good idea, mooth would kind of like it to come from him though really. If it's going to.
I asked out the last man I went on a date with. I would just be nice to be asked!
Ha, well will see him later on this week, but doubt there'd be any progress.
I will update though if anything happens
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Mini has got the right idea if you want to find out his level of interest, DoesThis. Drop some big hints about wanting to see a film/christmas lights and not having anyone to go with; that's the kind of thing you will have to do if you want to prise his true intentions out of him. Don't say it like, "I have nobody to go to the film with, but I was thinking maybe of otherwise asking my sister" ; that will likely put him off and he'll just let you go with your sister. Never introduce possible alternatives; make it clear you have absolutely nobody to go with and you won't go alone.
Lending you books is a good sign though.
"Argh, the pressure!"
Yep, it's like you've agreed to sing at the school christmas carol concert; too late now though and we're all waiting to see how you get on.
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